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Jilly_in_VA

(13,869 posts)
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 01:24 PM Aug 2025

Minnesota teen says server forced her to prove her gender in restaurant bathroom

A Minnesota teenager filed a charge of discrimination against a Buffalo Wild Wings restaurant Tuesday, alleging a server followed her into the women’s restroom and demanded she “prove” she was a girl.

Gerika Mudra, 18, went to dinner in April with a friend in Owatonna, about an hour south of Minneapolis. When she went to the restroom, a server followed her inside and banged on the stall door while saying: “This is a women’s restroom. The man needs to get out of here,” according to Gender Justice, a Minnesota gender-equality organization that filed the charge on Mudra’s behalf.

Mudra, a biracial lesbian who isn’t transgender, said that she has been in similar situations before, when people have suggested she’s in the wrong restroom, but that when she tells them she’s a woman they leave her alone. However, when she came out of the stall at Buffalo Wild Wings and told the server, “I am a lady,” she said, the server responded, “You have to get out now,” Gender Justice said in a statement.

Mudra said she felt she had to prove to the server that she is a woman, so she unzipped her hoodie to show she has breasts. The server didn’t say anything in response but left the restroom, Mudra said.

https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-news/minnesota-teen-says-server-forced-prove-gender-restaurant-bathroom-rcna224562

Unconscionable from the server. She should be fired and Buffalo Wild Wings should pay up. The young woman doesn't look like a male to me! (see picture at link)

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Minnesota teen says server forced her to prove her gender in restaurant bathroom (Original Post) Jilly_in_VA Aug 2025 OP
JFC leftstreet Aug 2025 #1
Sue restaurant & asshole server! SheltieLover Aug 2025 #2
"The young woman doesn't look like a male to me!" It doesn't matter who she looks like. It's unconscionable. WhiskeyGrinder Aug 2025 #3
I wonder who this asshole voted for? Dave Bowman Aug 2025 #4
The young woman is a person of color. yardwork Aug 2025 #5
I'm 67. phylny Aug 2025 #6
The Guardians of Pedophiles, pushed this hysteria upon us MagickMuffin Aug 2025 #7

WhiskeyGrinder

(26,468 posts)
3. "The young woman doesn't look like a male to me!" It doesn't matter who she looks like. It's unconscionable.
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 01:52 PM
Aug 2025

But when it comes to anti-trans laws, they will also end up targeting other marginalized people. By design.

yardwork

(68,987 posts)
5. The young woman is a person of color.
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 02:02 PM
Aug 2025

I hope Buffalo Wild Wings gets sued and gets bad publicity for harassing a customer.

phylny

(8,792 posts)
6. I'm 67.
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 02:44 PM
Aug 2025

I would unzip my pants and bare my hoo-haa so fast. Part of the “we do not care club”. IYKYK.

MagickMuffin

(18,095 posts)
7. The Guardians of Pedophiles, pushed this hysteria upon us
Wed Aug 13, 2025, 04:19 PM
Aug 2025


The pedo’s really have the cultural war going with attacking people who they don’t believe deserves to live in our country and should be treated with disrespect and scorn.

This wouldn’t be an issue if the pedo’s didn’t have the biggest and mightiest megaphone the media is in cahoots with these haters and pedophiles.


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