How Humor Takes the Edge off Hard Times
When life feels difficult, humor can be a coping mechanism that relieves stress and offers the breathing room to keep going, scientists say
By Meghan Bartels
November 25, 2024
Three psychologists walk into a bar to compose a witty toast to the power of humor. Or rather I picked up the phone and called each of them about the subject. (Im just terrible at telling jokes.) But these psychologists do genuinely want people to understand the role that humor can play in helping one deal with stress, anger, fear, anxiety and other difficult emotions. Sometimes, that means purposefully embracing humor when things are going well, shoring up defenses against hard times to come. And sometimes it can mean spontaneously laughing when you want to cry or cracking an absurdist joke when it feels like the sky is falling and Earth is on fire.
There is this autopilot, unconscious way that many people engage humor without thinking about it, says Steven Sultanoff, a clinical psychologist and an adjunct professor at Pepperdine University. It is a strategic coping mechanism, but its not a conscious one.
To psychologists, a coping mechanism is any kind of behavior or thought someone uses to deal with stress, says Janet Gibson, a psychologist and a professor emerita at Grinnell College. Not all of these strategies are beneficial, she notes: drinking or binge eating, for example, are more dangerous coping mechanisms.
But humor is indeed a powerful way of handling stressors, which activate how we feel, how we think, how we actand our physiology, Sultanoff says. Humor does exactly the same things, just in a different direction.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-humor-can-help-you-get-through-hard-times/?utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter&utm_campaign=socialflow
I hope so.
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(38,598 posts)Liberal cartoonists are the best! Granted they have loads of material, but they are masters at presenting news, poking holes in the other side's arguments, & ridiculing them all at the same time.
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(1,430 posts)Upthevibe
(9,251 posts)As I've posted several times before, my best friend's 17 y.o. son died by suicide on 1/2/21. Since that time, I've accompanied her and her wife to many gatherings, walks, conferences, etc.
There are colored beads that one can wear when you arrive at the event. The white beads mean you lost a child, Red means you lost a spouse, Orange stands for a sibling, Purple- a relative or friend, Teal for a family member who's attempted, Gold - a parent, and others.
Whitney (not her real name) always hands me the purple beads for a relative or friend (as she's getting hers she'll get me mine). Well, my sister has attempted suicide five times (thank God she was able to find the right combination of meds as well as had a lot of different types of therapy). Sooooooooo, not only should I get the purple beads (for her son) but I should also get the Teal colored ones to represent my sister.
This past Saturday at a gathering she handed my the purple ones so I went back to the board to get the teal colored ones. When I got back to our chairs I said, "Whitney, you're always trying to short-change me on the beads - you always forget about Julia (my sis)! It was the way I said it and my body language that made us both laugh so hard!
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(1,430 posts)Truly wonderful.
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(9,251 posts)We've been wonderful friends to each other.
Liam dying by suicide was one of the biggest shocks of my life (our whole friend and family group were absolutely stunned). They (his parents) were the best parents I'd ever seen. There were no red flags. I've learned there are some questions that can never be answered.