Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

lonely bird

(2,893 posts)
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:48 PM Mar 3

Asking for some good vibes and prayers

Mrs. Bird has gone through a long stretch of pain. She had adult scoliosis correction in February of 2023. About a year later she had pain going down her right leg to her foot. We saw the doctor who did the surgery and after x-rays determined that the rods and screws (32 screws and 4 rods) were where they supposed to be. Suggested she see the pain doctor. So, we did. She had several injections some of which provided a bit of relief and some which didn’t. Pain and weakness became worse which necessitated going from a walking stick to a walker.

Our CNP suggested going outside our normal hospital/medical group to get fresh eyes on the problem. So we made an appointment. New spine doc took extensive history and asked many questions. He ordered an x-ray. When we saw it he noted that the scoliosis correction had been done very well. The back isn’t the problem. She needs a new hip. Surgery is scheduled for March 13. Basically, the ball has collapsed and is almost square shaped.

My wife has had a history of back issues that started with a blown out disc due to sneezing. After the micro lumbar discectomy in about 1987 or so she needed spinal decompression in 2016. One nerve was so flattened going through the vertebra that the sheaf was tearing. Within the next two weeks of that surgery she had two infections (one was staph) that required going back in to clean them out. That caused her scoliosis to really go nuts.

What she wants out of this is just to be able to walk without pain.

Thanks for listening.

Lonely Bird

60 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies
Asking for some good vibes and prayers (Original Post) lonely bird Mar 3 OP
Best of luck with your situation. OAITW r.2.0 Mar 3 #1
Healing vibes head to your wife Lifeafter70 Mar 3 #2
Healing vibes on the way SheltieLover Mar 3 #3
And from me! ++++++++ spooky3 Mar 3 #11
... SheltieLover Mar 3 #12
Yuk SuzyandPuffpuff Mar 3 #4
Sending my best thoughts UpInArms Mar 3 #5
My best wishes to Mrs. Bird, and to you as well. LuckyCharms Mar 3 #6
Your wife has done everything to relieve this pain and as extensive as hip surgery is, I hope it's the answer Deuxcents Mar 3 #7
Sending strength and healing democrank Mar 3 #8
Sending healing vibes to your wife, lonely bird. sheshe2 Mar 3 #9
Peace, strength, and rest wishes for you. quaint Mar 3 #10
She has endured so much already jmbar2 Mar 3 #13
Sending good lounge vibes! Phentex Mar 3 #14
Sending... 2naSalit Mar 3 #15
From personal experience, collapsed hip repair was a piece of cake...though I did not have the other issues. joanbarnes Mar 3 #16
Holding you and Mrs. Bird in light and love. Vibes for swift and niyad Mar 3 #17
I will add both of you to my prayer list.lonely bird. debm55 Mar 3 #18
Best wishes IbogaProject Mar 3 #19
May good vibes stage left Mar 3 #20
Hip surgery has advanced a LOT in the past few years. My wife had it done yesterday, and was walking later in the day. SeattleVet Mar 3 #21
YES!! It's not the big scary ordeal one would think it is!! Leghorn21 Mar 3 #27
Aw, man! I'm so sorry to hear what you two are going through! calimary Mar 3 #22
Wishing Mrs Bird and you all the best. badhair77 Mar 3 #23
Sending good vibes sdfernando Mar 3 #24
Pain is hell, I'm sorry she's going through this. cate94 Mar 3 #25
Dear Bird!!!!! My brother has two great friends who both had their hips replaced after years of misery!!! Leghorn21 Mar 3 #26
""" AllaN01Bear Mar 3 #28
Good vibes and best wishes! Whyisthisstillclose Mar 3 #29
oh my Skittles Mar 3 #30
Sending healing vibes to Mrs. Bird. virgdem Mar 3 #31
Prayers and best wishes for both of you JohnnyLib2 Mar 3 #32
Sending best wishes and healing vibes for your wife from the great state of Michigan. MIButterfly Mar 3 #33
Chronic pain sucks! All the best for your wife irisblue Mar 3 #34
Praying for an excellent outcome for Mrs. Bird Tanuki Mar 3 #35
I am so sorry. I hope her pain-free days come very soon. LoisB Mar 3 #36
Sending good vibes, lonely bird! senseandsensibility Mar 3 #37
Sending vibes for your wife and a hug for you MustLoveBeagles Mar 3 #38
Praying that Mrs. Bird flies through this surgery and walks with no discomfort. hamsterjill Mar 3 #39
My struggles pale in comparison. All I know is that BootinUp Mar 3 #40
Praying for you and Mrs. Bird JMCKUSICK Mar 3 #41
Healing vibes and prayers for her, and hugs for both of you. highplainsdem Mar 3 #42
Healing vibes to your beloved wife... 3catwoman3 Mar 3 #43
Glad to hear that the back is no longer the problem. I've had live love laugh Mar 3 #44
You know, it's almost as hard on Tesha Wednesday #45
Peace, Healing, Renewal, Joy Donkees Wednesday #46
Everybody... lonely bird Wednesday #47
💐🫶🏽 blm Wednesday #48
Holding you and your wife in my heart for healing and wholeness. Pain is a difficult challenge indeed. n/t TygrBright Wednesday #49
Empathy and healing energies going out to your wife... slightlv Wednesday #50
My thoughts and prayers to you as well lonely bird Monday #60
Sending Emerald Green Healing Light to surround your wife. Bread and Circuses Wednesday #51
I am sending them right now! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Wednesday #52
Best wishes . . . otchmoson Wednesday #53
All the best to your wife. PittBlue Wednesday #54
Healing 💚Love ❤️ Light 💛 to Mrs Bird. Comfort 🧡 to you lonely bird Clouds Passing Wednesday #55
Healing wishes FemDemERA Monday #56
Good vibes and prayers coming her way KS Toronado Monday #57
Prayers for Ms. Bird, and also for you. Dorothy V Monday #58
Prayers for both Mrs. bird and you. debm55 Monday #59

SuzyandPuffpuff

(505 posts)
4. Yuk
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 07:59 PM
Mar 3

Good luck to you and yours... pain is unyielding... I suffer from migraines and scoliosis... take care

Deuxcents

(26,525 posts)
7. Your wife has done everything to relieve this pain and as extensive as hip surgery is, I hope it's the answer
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:16 PM
Mar 3

Good wishes coming for your wife and her faithful caregiver, Mr Bird 🌺

sheshe2

(97,164 posts)
9. Sending healing vibes to your wife, lonely bird.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:17 PM
Mar 3

Also, my thoughts are with you as well as her caretaker.
Hugs to you both.

jmbar2

(7,942 posts)
13. She has endured so much already
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:27 PM
Mar 3

I'm hoping that these next steps give her relief. You are a gem of a spouse to gather energy for her healing. Bless both of you.

2naSalit

(102,113 posts)
15. Sending...
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:34 PM
Mar 3

This is what happened to a good friend of mine last year. She had two reconstruction surgeries on her lower spine only to come out of the last surgery in great pain, couldn't even walk... and she had horses. After some complaining she was seen by her back surgeon who discovered that she needed a hip. That was last summer/fall. With the new hip she is doing well, not going to ride horses ever again but she can walk and do her daily thing without pain. She's in her mid-70s.

I hope your dearest has a similar outcome!

joanbarnes

(2,116 posts)
16. From personal experience, collapsed hip repair was a piece of cake...though I did not have the other issues.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:36 PM
Mar 3

niyad

(131,766 posts)
17. Holding you and Mrs. Bird in light and love. Vibes for swift and
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:39 PM
Mar 3

successful procedure and complete recovery and healing.

IbogaProject

(5,806 posts)
19. Best wishes
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:49 PM
Mar 3

Glad the decision for another professional opinion was made and very glad it offers an opportunity to get the pain behind her. Also very glad you're not actually lonely but in name.

SeattleVet

(5,883 posts)
21. Hip surgery has advanced a LOT in the past few years. My wife had it done yesterday, and was walking later in the day.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:50 PM
Mar 3

It was minimally invasive (anterior) hip replacement and she was in and out of the surgical center in under 6 hours, including the time in the recovery room until she could walk to the restroom using a walker. She hasn't taken any of the Tramadol she was given since she has very little pain, and has pretty full movement. Doc said she can put her full weight on it as long as it's comfortable for her. She's been up and down the stairs several times today using crutches without any problems. There was even no PT needed!

Hip replacement doesn't involve the long, dragged out recovery that it was like just a couple of years ago, so I'm sure Mrs. Bird will do fine. Passing on some of my wife's good luck to her!

Leghorn21

(14,079 posts)
27. YES!! It's not the big scary ordeal one would think it is!!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:35 PM
Mar 3

Glad your wife has improved so radically!!!

calimary

(89,791 posts)
22. Aw, man! I'm so sorry to hear what you two are going through!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 08:52 PM
Mar 3

You certainly don’t deserve ANY of it.

Sending both of you (especially her) lots of good vibes for healing and liberation from pain. Please do keep us posted as she (hopefully) recovers, fully and completely!

I’m thinking of the two of you out for a nice long walk together, with NO pains or complications for either of you.

badhair77

(5,170 posts)
23. Wishing Mrs Bird and you all the best.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:11 PM
Mar 3

Thinking of you both along with her medical team. Hope she finds an end to her suffering.

cate94

(3,087 posts)
25. Pain is hell, I'm sorry she's going through this.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:24 PM
Mar 3

Sending prayers and good vibes, and a for each of you!

Leghorn21

(14,079 posts)
26. Dear Bird!!!!! My brother has two great friends who both had their hips replaced after years of misery!!!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:32 PM
Mar 3

One woman got one new hip, the other gal, two

It was a FANTASTIC experience for both of them!! They were up and happily walking in a day or two!!

I have no doubt Mrs Bird will feel so much better when the pretty quick and straightforward surgery is over!!

TAKE HEART, GOOD SIR
KISSES TO MRS BIRD

Skittles

(171,153 posts)
30. oh my
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:46 PM
Mar 3

whenever I have any pain that lasts for a few days it makes me think of people who live with chronic pain, I always wonder how they do it.......wishing the best for you and Mrs. Bird

JohnnyLib2

(11,329 posts)
32. Prayers and best wishes for both of you
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 09:55 PM
Mar 3

That's a huge load of stress over the years, tough on both of you. May she walk with comfort soon.

MIButterfly

(2,573 posts)
33. Sending best wishes and healing vibes for your wife from the great state of Michigan.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:08 PM
Mar 3

My friend had hip replacement surgery on one hip a couple of years back and couldn't wait to have it done on the other hip a couple of years later. She is now pain-free. I wish the same for your wife.

Please keep us posted.

Best regards,
MIButterfly

Tanuki

(16,419 posts)
35. Praying for an excellent outcome for Mrs. Bird
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:09 PM
Mar 3

with quick relief from her pain and good mobility! 🙏🏻 💐

senseandsensibility

(24,795 posts)
37. Sending good vibes, lonely bird!
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:12 PM
Mar 3

It sounds like your wife has gone through so much. Let's hope she finds relief with the hip surgery. Tell her DUers are rooting for her!

hamsterjill

(17,487 posts)
39. Praying that Mrs. Bird flies through this surgery and walks with no discomfort.
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:16 PM
Mar 3

Sounds like she has been through an awful lot. I have said a prayer for her full recovery. That is my practice.

I'm sure it is hard to anticipate the upcoming date of surgery. I wish you both some peace and solace as you get to the date. I wish you peace through the procedure, and I wish her a pain free journey back to being able to walk easily.

Wishing you both all the very best...

BootinUp

(51,182 posts)
40. My struggles pale in comparison. All I know is that
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:26 PM
Mar 3

I needed to change to head off some big health issues. I am working very hard at it now. I am learning that its when you stop moving it causes more problems. Also I am putting a lot of effort into improving my diet, nothing fancy, boring basics.

JMCKUSICK

(5,864 posts)
41. Praying for you and Mrs. Bird
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:27 PM
Mar 3

Thankfully they found the problem, now to get it fixed.
God Speed Lonely Bird

3catwoman3

(29,244 posts)
43. Healing vibes to your beloved wife...
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 10:52 PM
Mar 3

...and kudos to the CNP who made the suggestion to seek the additional opinion.

live love laugh

(16,336 posts)
44. Glad to hear that the back is no longer the problem. I've had
Tue Mar 3, 2026, 11:23 PM
Mar 3

family and friends who didn’t have successful back surgeries and it’s difficult. But hip replacements seem to be much more successful. I’m rooting for you.

Tesha

(21,130 posts)
45. You know, it's almost as hard on
Wed Mar 4, 2026, 12:20 AM
Wednesday

the caretaker as it is on the patient.
Take good care of yourself while you're taking care of her.

lonely bird

(2,893 posts)
47. Everybody...
Wed Mar 4, 2026, 02:15 PM
Wednesday

Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers and vibes.

I will let you all know how things go.

TygrBright

(21,354 posts)
49. Holding you and your wife in my heart for healing and wholeness. Pain is a difficult challenge indeed. n/t
Wed Mar 4, 2026, 06:23 PM
Wednesday

slightlv

(7,729 posts)
50. Empathy and healing energies going out to your wife...
Wed Mar 4, 2026, 06:27 PM
Wednesday

I've had a similar journey with my back... including hip replacement. All I ever wanted was to be able to walk my dog without horrendous pain, and to be able to clean my house. At 70 now, I just want to be able to get out of bed on my own. Doc's won't even touch my back, as espoused by one surgeon. And now, hubby is deep into dementia and has heart/arterial problems, so $$$ are all going to pay off his expenses. I can't add more to that, no matter how much I may want to try to find help. Instead, I live on hydrocodone, the amount of which doesn't cover a full month of what I need... and I fight not only my back but now fibro and lupus. The dreams I have at night are happy... it's the waking up I'm beginning to resent. (from "Picard&quot

I do hope the hip surgery will send your wife into walking wellness. It would be wonderful to know there are good docs out there who really try to do what's right for their patients.

lonely bird

(2,893 posts)
60. My thoughts and prayers to you as well
Mon Mar 9, 2026, 09:04 PM
Monday

I cannot imagine dealing with both the physical pain the the emotional pain of your husband’s dementia.

Peace to you.

otchmoson

(321 posts)
53. Best wishes . . .
Wed Mar 4, 2026, 06:42 PM
Wednesday

I operate a small boarding kennel for pampered pets . . . and I have a number of clients whose dogs I've cared for while they underwent knee or hip surgery. I'm amazed at the success rate, and the difference it makes in their lives. I certainly hope you soon have a success story to share.

Latest Discussions»The DU Lounge»Asking for some good vibe...