A new approach to PEACE
Out in the 12 Step World is a concept of defining "The Problem" and "The Solution" and I applied it to finding a better way to work together (at all - even DU feels argumentative these days).
I am hoping it will be a way to communicate with some of my family who are decent people, but very tRumpy.
I would still have to pursue permission to use this anywhere publicly where I might derive any financial benefit (which I might have to do as some parts of it need further explanation as they are maybe quirky concepts on my part and may take a book or booklet.)
But tell me if any of this makes sense to people.
The Problem:
Humanity’s Tendency to De-Evolve into Clan Based Thought
Many of us found that we had several characteristics in common as a result of being brought up in a World that created Clan Based Systems of EXCLUSION as part of our evolution, but that when used NOW results in backwards steps for Humanity in general and US personally.
We can feel isolated, uneasy with other people, especially authority figures. Every interaction becomes about US vs THEM.
To protect SELF and CLAN, we can HIDE, FLEE or FIGHT. If we became people pleasers, we might lose our own identities in the process. We can mistake any personal criticism as a threat to hide from, run from or face with a vengeance.
We might have become EXCLUSIONISTS (or practiced other FEAR Based Behavior Roles) ourselves, or have suffered interactions with such personalities, and suffered harm, felt persecuted and misunderstood by entire groups of “OTHER” people.
We can devolve into righteous victimhood. Developing HYPER Vigilance as our sense of responsibility can WARP into being more concerned with how others treat us rather than seeing our own actions and others actions in their true light.
We can get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves, often giving in to others to keep the peace or become COMBATITIVE. This made many of US devolve into FEAR Based Reactors rather than EVOLVED Human Actors, letting other’s initiatives RULE or WRECK our lives.
We see our World from a viewpoint of TERRIFIED INTER-DEPENDENCY where although we have made much progress in DEFINING, DEFUSING and DOVETAILING our interactions we FEAR the OTHER Group will somehow betray US. Historically, it is TRUE. So SOME fears are rational. But the HYPER Vigilance causes us to DEFEND, DISTRUST and DENY most efforts at PEACE, Co-operation and Mutual Advancement as INSINCERE unless we already SEE those offering as One of US instead of One of THEM.
These symptoms of De-Evolution made us ‘co-victims’, those who take on the characteristics of the dysfunction without necessarily ever resorting to the highest crimes. We learned to DISTRUST OTHERS as children and RESISTED new information into adulthood. As a result of this conditioning, we often confused DOGMA with FACTS trying to SOLVE the WRONG PROBLEMS with FEAR BASED SOLUTIONS.
Unable to recognize this as self-perpetuating and self-defeating DE-Evolution, we became STUCK in a cycle of constant upset that distrusted, delayed and derailed workable solutions.
This is a description, not an indictment.
The Solution:
Become Evolved Humans ACTING on FACTS to face FEARS
The solution is to become THE CHANGE. Evolve personally and teach others to do the same.
SEE History based on actual FACTS and do NOT be swayed by FEAR to spray “THEY DID IT” or “I AM RIGHT” on EVERYTHING. Become part of RE-Evolution. Do NOT just start a revolution AGAINST another “THEM” as it will only cause more conflict and less resolution of problems.
By coming together with the goal of Evolving Humanity into a Healthy Inter-Dependency based on DEFINING, DEFUSING and DOVETAILING our interactions; we can create a safe structure that protects people from those who would over reach power while harnessing the good we can do as complimentary societies. We can then advance toward World PEACE, create more Health and Wealth while sharing our resources and advances within Secure Parameters. LAWS that REWARD Honest Cooperation and PENALIZES all DIS-Honest Attempts to revert to a Clan Based Society that DISRUPTS the PROCESS of Evolution towards PEACE among the Peoples of the World.
WE FACE THE PAST TOGETHER without making any one group into only heroes or only victims. We become EVOLVED Humans, imprisoned no longer by Clan Based reactions. We discover/recover the evolved human within; learning to love, accept and respect ourselves AND others.
The healing begins when we risk FACING FACTS WITHOUT DOGMA. While it is right to allow people who have been treated as “other” for most of history to grieve over the hurts of the past and acknowledge their pain and suffering, including any portion of that pain that is our own; we don’t get to healing the rift until we gradually release those burdens of unexpressed grief and become WILLING, however slowly, TO MOVE OUT OF THE PAST. We learn to treat ourselves AND OTHERS with gentleness, humor, love and respect by DEFINING, DEFUSING and DOVETAILING our interactions.
This process allows us to see our HISTORY as the FACTS of our existence. We acknowledge that no one group of people has been able to experience the Evolution into Healthy Inter-Dependence among people in their society without RELEASING the Fearful Clan Based Mentality of US vs THEM.
This is the action and work that heals us: we use FACTS to confront FEARS; we use the FACTS to find HEALTHY SOLUTIONS to Our Problems TOGETHER. We share our experience, strength, and hope with each other. We learn to restructure our sick thinking one day at a time. When we release ourselves from the Mentality of FEAR Based CLAN Reactions, and take responsibility for our actions today, we become free to make healthful decisions as actors, not reactors. We progress from hurting, to healing, to helping. We awaken to a sense of wholeness within HUMANITY that we never knew was possible.
By working together to FACE the FEAR Baseed Clan Mode of Thought as the dysfunction it is: a system that seeks to compartmentalize the people of the World into US vs THEM, we release it’s power to affect US as we seek to EVOLVE into the BEST that Humanity can become.
We keep the focus on FACTS and the need for SOLUTIONS in the PRESENT. We take responsibility to BE THE CHANGE we are looking for to solve the World’s and our own problems.
We can accept the PAST as it WAS and Ourselves and Others AS WE ARE. We SEE the TRUTH of a World that is still divided and searching for the best answers for how to work together without losing our own independence. We acknowledge both mistakes and well intentioned groundwork that can be salvaged or replaced with something better suited for EVOLVED interactions that advance Humanity as a WHOLE Entity.
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