My mom died today

[WillParkinson]

It wasn't unexpected. She was eighty years old, and in poor health. She kept telling me she was ready to go. When the nurse called to tell me, however, she dropped a few bombshells.

There are people living in my mom's house who are not related by blood, although she calls them her grandkids. The nurse told me that one of them was listed as having power of attorney for her, even though we have the forms that say we (Paul and I) do. Nurse said we were on there, but now listed as second. So, no clue what that's about since she never told me.

Now we're wondering if she ever changed her Will to include these people. Again, not something she discussed with me, although about six months ago, she asked if we would be willing to let these people have the house (the one I grew up in and has been in our family for more than sixty years). I said no. Paul would like to move in there since it's larger than ours and has a garage, and it's got a bulk of my memories. She said she would give them money then, which I had no problem with.

Now I need to find out if she changed the Will and gave these people the house. It's freaking me out, because I don't want there to be conflict, but I'm not willing to let them keep something my family has always owned. It might make me seem like an ass, but I can't help it.

I called a probate lawyer today, but won't hear back until at least Thursday. So, that's where we are now.

[underpants]

1. ❤️

[Meadowoak]

2. sounds like you are about to get screwed.

When my father passed, I was supposed to be executor, my brother had snuck into my dad's nursing home and had him sign a power of attorney for him. I didn't know any of this until my father's death. At the same time, I learned that he treated himself to dad's saving account, and had cleaned him out to the tune of about $450,000. Dad wasn't in his right mind, but his doctor refused to testify to that. Needless to say, I got screwed bigly.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. I am so sorry to hear your sad and disturbing news today (of all days!)

And it's doubly hard since now you have to wait till after Christmas to do anything at all. I feel your frustration!

And there is no way you're being an ass about all this. That house is part of you as well as part of your heritage.

I hope Thursday gets here soon.

[SharonAnn]

15. Fight for it. In her right mind, she wanted you to have the house.

I fought for some things after my mother’s death and have never regretted it.

[Lochloosa]

4. Sorry for your loss. You're not being an ass. Stay vigilant.

[OAITW r.2.0]

5. Sorry to read....losing your mom is something only you can experience.

[2naSalit]

6. Sorry about your mom...

Mine passed on New Year's Eve. I would call the nurse back and tell her to do nothing and let nothing happen - nio money distribution or anything until you have contacted the attorney or at least go there to see what's up in person, which you should do. Something isn't right here. Hope you can resolve it without issues.

[surfered]

7. I am so sorry. That's hard, but let her memory be a blessing.

[Deuxcents]

8. Times like these bring out the best in people and the worst.

My mom passed 21 n years ago last week and her wishes were discussed with only one of us..it wasn’t me and I’m the oldest so my other sisters and I were taken back when we were not given any mementos, photos..nothing. After all this time, there’s been no conversation with this sister as she has shut us out. But..we are alive and well and much better off with our memories and not having her in our lives. I hope things work out better for you and I would say, get professional help, especially if you have anything in writing. Sorry for your loss..no time is a better time to experience such grief 🌺

[mercuryblues]

9. I am sorry for the passing of your Mom.

It makes it worse having to wonder if these people took advantage of her in her final days.

[sinkingfeeling]

10. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[TexasTowelie]

11. I believe that this could be considered a form of elderly abuse if she was coerced or did not

have her mental faculties. I would definitely have the disputed POA examined for forged signatures and also verify the date it was signed--the same would also apply to a revised will. The probate attorney should be able to provide some guidance.

My condolences on the loss of your mother.

[Trellastic]

12. May you have peace, comfort and support.

Condolences on the passing of your mom. It's sad that you are burdened with having to deal with legal issues during this sad time but may you be able to celebrate her life through the years to come.

[sheshe2]

13. I am so sorry for your loss, Will.

Expected or not, it hits you hard especially around a holiday.
💙

[KT2000]

14. I'm sorry for your loss

I am also sorry about these complications. I hope it goes smoothly.

[live love laugh]

16. My condolences for your loss.

[MacKasey]

17. CONTEST THE WILL, IMMEDIATELY, if it has been changed

You need to line up a doctor to attest to her mental facilities.

https://www.nelsonmullins.com/insights/blogs/the-estate-planning-and-probate-litigation-blog/probate-litigation/how-to-challenge-a-will-based-on-incapacity-or-undue-influence

Did the hospital turn your mother 's body for funeral over to these people?

If they are not blood related, I believe that is in your favor

You got a battle ahead

Very sad to hear about your mother but I went into fight mode with your situation

[Jay25]

18. Sorry for your loss,

you are doing the right thing. Unfortunately, there are those who take advantage of others. Again, sorry for your loss and good luck.

[pnwmom]

19. Did the nurse say what kind of power of attorney it was? There's a medical power of attorney, which is much more limited

than a general power of attorney. I hope that's all he got. With a general power of attorney, he could have made financial decisions even while she was alive.

What a mess. I am so sorry, and especially, for the loss of your mother.

[lonely bird]

20. So sorry

The will and probate stuff just sucks.

Losing your mother this time of year really sucks.

My mom died on Christmas Eve in 1983. She was 58. I still dislike this time of year.

[cate94]

21. I'm so sorry

[AllaN01Bear]

22. ""

minedied december 21 2002. still dealing with it.

[summer_in_TX]

23. Sad times. Very sorry to hear about the complications too.

[essaynnc]

24. Sorry for you loss.

It's tough to lose your mom.

I hope everything works out well in the end.

[irisblue]

25. I am so so sorry.

Loving a Mom is so complex, I am sorry.

Change all the locks as soon as you can

[applegrove]

26. So sorry for your loss.

[pandr32]

27. Wow, what a mess.

I am so sorry for your loss, but also for the ordeal you have to go through while you grieve.

[LoisB]

28. I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. Hopefully, the "grandkids" will be decent and

realize they have no moral right to your mom's home.

[Karadeniz]

29. Good lord! Sounds like youve got some grifters...i wish the nurse had thought

to let you know earlier...guess she believed the grandkids story. Worrying about this won't help... try to let the spirit of the season help you cope... I know, I'd find it impossible !!!!

[mountain grammy]

30. I'm so sorry about your mom.

I sure hope you can resolve this quickly. Good luck!

[LetMyPeopleVote]

31. I am sorry for your loss

[DonCoquixote]

32. comdlences

that os oen of the hatrdest deaths