Addiction & Recovery
Related: About this forumYesterday was my third anniversary of sobriety!
It hasn't been easy. I still struggle a bit on weekends and have avoided a lot of parties over this period. But it is getting better. I used to think about drinking (actually, about not drinking) all the time. But, I've just accepted the new reality. I'm just not a drinker anymore.
I have to thank my family for getting me into rehab. And the occasional positive reinforcement. Although it'd be nice to hear how much they enjoy the new me once in a while. They seem to take it for granted and they can't possibly know how much work it's been for me.
Anyway, here's to many more years of clean living!
nycbos
(6,419 posts)Have a shot of espresso for me.
zuul
(14,677 posts)rurallib
(63,327 posts)Life is pretty good sober, isn't it?
I quit somewhere @ 1990 and life has been much better.
Keep it up - hope to see updates coming in the next years.
pwb
(12,208 posts)Those three years have been difficult for us all so you did good. Stay with us.
BComplex
(9,181 posts)Irish_Dem
(60,907 posts)Lots of alcoholism in my family and I know the damage it does, and how hard it is to stay sober.
One day, one hour, one minute if that is what it takes!
Yes three years of clean living, good on you!
mopinko
(72,062 posts)never worn your shoes, but an potter friend of mine did.
had not been doing much when he got bad, and it wasnt his best.
he was amazed how much time he had once he quit. get back to work, and got a teaching job at a community college. the clay was good therapy.
he sorta has the same problem. but he's just so grateful his wife didnt dump him. i do think she knows, tho. he was a bad dad, but pretty much makes up for that every day.
NoMoreRepugs
(10,721 posts)nykym
(3,063 posts)yeah it can be tough at times but the rewards are much better.
35 years for me - I don't miss it at all.
Dyedinthewoolliberal
(15,947 posts)Now onto 3 years and one day
Signed,
DITWL aka A Friend of Bill W.
Duncanpup
(13,906 posts)Alpeduez21
(1,878 posts)You have achieved something quite great. At three years sober I had returned to school to get a degree. None of the other students or professors could I have guessed I was a blackout drinker who broke out in handcuffs due to my allergy to alcohol. It was like I was living a secret life, like walter mitty or something. Now that reality of a sober Alpeduez21 makes the blackout life seem a distant fantasy that barely existed.
Bristlecone
(10,545 posts)SMART recovery helped and continues to help. Thought I'd give them a plug!
BillyBobBrilliant
(805 posts)yaesu
(8,395 posts)RestoreAmerica2020
(3,459 posts)Paz
irisblue
(34,505 posts)👏👏👏
yonder
(10,017 posts)Well done!
FuzzyRabbit
(2,107 posts)Your sentence "I'm just not a drinker anymore" tells me that you were 100% successful. You no longer identify with drinking. Keep it up.
RainCaster
(11,735 posts)You have a great start, good for you
Jon King
(1,910 posts)Rooting for you big time!
intheozone
(1,117 posts)AllaN01Bear
(23,569 posts)BadGimp
(4,078 posts)Skittles
(160,738 posts)after I quit smoking (after several attempts), I'd still think about it and dream about it. But then one night while taking a walk I came across a pack of cigs (my brand) with a lighter near the pool area of my apartment complex...I took one of the cigs....walked with it for a while and then I thought, this is the moment of truth, am I a non-smoker or will I always be someone who struggles not to smoke? I tossed the cig in the dumpster and that's when I knew I really was done for good.
hydrolastic
(532 posts)No thanks if i drink that, i will lose all my stuff and half of yours. Next june 15th, 30 years
Stuart G
(38,726 posts)it's been for me....Dealing with "addictions" is very hard...no matter what you are addicted to...
Rhiannon12866
(225,779 posts)And this is why it's beneficial to share with those of us who have been there. I joined AA in November of 2008 and was fortunate to meet a wonderful woman who told me what to do. But it still took me awhile. Like the others have said, an addiction is very hard to break. And I've learned that sobriety is a journey, not a destination. I can remember when I never thought I'd make it a week - but I kept at it, with the help and example of others, espeically the woman who sponsored me, and I have 12 years as of last April. Sometimes when I think of it, I'm amazed. And I try to pay it forward. I have a friend who also has three years as of today. One of my AA jobs is coins - and you deserve one, too...
DemocraticPatriot
(5,410 posts)I was on my 4th night, and I failed this time
But there's always tomorrow, yes? Back to the starting line.
It is an ongoing battle...