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I'm done (Original Post) kozar Aug 2023 OP
... sprinkleeninow Aug 2023 #1
Kozar, you took care of someone. Polly Hennessey Aug 2023 #2
Yea I did kozar Aug 2023 #4
You have my number. Use it. marble falls Aug 2023 #3
Or you could call me kozar Aug 2023 #6
Please take care of yourself. Ask for help if you need it. Ocelot II Aug 2023 #5
. ItsjustMe Aug 2023 #7
my husband died deRien Aug 2023 #8
That's a great point. Kozar your second act will be coming up. Maybe Maraya1969 Aug 2023 #9
Kozar, after my loved one died whathehell Aug 2023 #10
No you're not just a guy vercetti2021 Aug 2023 #11
You did it for her, not for you. Beastly Boy Aug 2023 #12
Hugs were given. And we spent 2 hours here kozar Aug 2023 #13
Now THAT is something you did for yourself. A wonderful first step. Beastly Boy Aug 2023 #14

deRien

(223 posts)
8. my husband died
Tue Aug 8, 2023, 04:59 PM
Aug 2023

recently and the issue I have is: who am I without him? Friends always asked about how he was doing and occasionally, they would ask how I was doing. Maybe not having to take care of LilBit is leaving you with the same sense of not knowing who you are since your role has been as caregiver for so long. Do you think you can give yourself time to find out who you are now? From what I have read on DU, there are many who care about you, have followed your journey with LilBit and would truly grieve if something happened to you.

Maraya1969

(23,025 posts)
9. That's a great point. Kozar your second act will be coming up. Maybe
Tue Aug 8, 2023, 05:03 PM
Aug 2023

you just need to rest for awhile. You do have friends and there is a reason you are here.

whathehell

(29,875 posts)
10. Kozar, after my loved one died
Tue Aug 8, 2023, 05:14 PM
Aug 2023

I felt like you..i joined a grief support group and it helped..You.might want to check it out

vercetti2021

(10,403 posts)
11. No you're not just a guy
Tue Aug 8, 2023, 06:16 PM
Aug 2023

You're a human! You're a loving and caring person. You're not done. There is still purpose for you

Beastly Boy

(11,369 posts)
12. You did it for her, not for you.
Tue Aug 8, 2023, 06:33 PM
Aug 2023

years from now you will realize how right your decision was for her.

Now it's time to do something for you. Just because some people may turn away from you, doesn't mean you are alone. Where there is a will, there is a way. You have the will. Now go find your way. Your way. Not what people expect of you.

On edit: Lil Bit will miss you. Hug her the next time you visit.

Beastly Boy

(11,369 posts)
14. Now THAT is something you did for yourself. A wonderful first step.
Wed Aug 9, 2023, 06:44 PM
Aug 2023

You have much to do, Koz, but you are on your way!

On edit: That little hand tells me a lot about why you love her so much

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