Arguing with SO over tmj treatment
Its very expensive. Like massively expensive. We got a 2nd opinion. My SO sat in bc I wanted another set of ears. This guy was more expensive than my primary. I'm looking for someone to comfort all my fears and concerns. My SO remembers the 2nd opinion saying keep wearing the chewing splint for 9 months.
When I try to talk about my concern, he goes nuts and talks about the price "cleaning him out" financially. He seemed onboard in the past with my treatment. Now he just gets angry like I'm expecting money. He did pay 7k for the splints.
Nothing I say will stop him now from going ballistic. I mentioned selling a bit of stock, and he went nuts about being taxed on it. If he wasnt paying the bills, and I had more money coming in, Id leave.
He smokes and drinks and looks awful half the time. I'm sick of it, but stuck.ETA MY STOCK. Just spoke to him again about needing comfort. He says its my decision. Which it is. Its just crushing. He says thr restorative dental work may not even work. Just keep wearing the splint. I don't know what to do
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If the stock is yours and you have enough to cover the procedure plus any tax liability I’d say ultimately the decision is yours to do it now or try the splints for 9 months and if doesn’t work go for the procedure or if you didn’t hear the same thing your SO did, I’d call the DR and confirm that his recommendation was to first wear the splints. It would be wonderful if your SO was able to provide more emotional support but it sounds like that is something he can’t or won’t do.
I’m very sorry you are trapped.
Shop around.
That night guard/splint fee is ridiculous - even including all the diagnostic impressions/models and planning.
Labs only charge about $200 for the appliances.
Around $2k per crown is about the going rate. And that is too much, imo.
The lab fee for the crowns is less than $100 per crown, unless they are all-ceramic (zirconia for back teeth), where the lab fee might be $150.
Definitely shop around.
Get all of the diagnostic materials this DDS has made. They are yours, if you've paid up front diagnostic/office fees.
Take them to any prospective doctors you might be considering.
Pay attention to the complete treatment plans.
All the best, glad to answer any questions, if you'd like.
