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debm55

(38,589 posts)
Mon May 20, 2024, 10:10 PM May 2024

I had an online appointment with my therapist today. Rich goes for his PET tomorrowTuesday. I am nervous. Have not

received a card from "family" She called four times over the week end. Told me sister has covid and wanted to know if that is normal. I told her it was , since she works in a nursing him. Preceded to tell me about the flies in her house. I said i need to go. Called again and told me about all the people in her family that died from cancer. Called on Sunday, left a message that this was her mother calling and she shit me out, she owes me nothing. Sister is screaming in background about getting a taxi down to Pittsburgh. Also for Father's Day they want to get a combined Husband/ Wife headstone. I am to chip in. Got one more but didn't answer it, No calls since, No card for Rich, My sister does not and never had cancer, She had a polyp removed, Rich was in PreMed at Cornel. I spent two years in the Nursing Program at Penn State. . It breaks my heart that after spending my entire summer carting them to and from Pittsburgh and sending her balloons, flowers, candy and a teddy bear for a made up cancer, I should have known better as when his parents died, no cards were sent. I guess we should block the phone, The old thing about all of this is that I was 2 classes from getting my PhD in Art Therapy for abused and troubled teens, and I can't put it together why she has always treated me so awful. Doctor heal yourself
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Arne

(3,608 posts)
1. As horrific the circumstance may be
Mon May 20, 2024, 10:18 PM
May 2024

it's nice that you get to type it all out and get it off your chest.
When it seems you have problems, boy does everyone have problems.

debm55

(38,589 posts)
4. Don;t understand what you posted?I. I was told by posters to lean on the posters here, Maybe I am reading your post the
Mon May 20, 2024, 10:39 PM
May 2024

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wrong way, If so I am sorry, however, right now my husband has a PET scan for Malignant prostrate Cancer and my family has offered no support at all, In addition I am on meds for anxiety and depression,

Arne

(3,608 posts)
13. At first I thought
Tue May 21, 2024, 06:25 PM
May 2024

you understood me to be consoling and supportive.

It was good of you to let it out, but I'm afraid to post again.

debm55

(38,589 posts)
14. I am so sorry. Really. Mentally, I have had it. I didn't mean to trash talk you. I have been up since 3: 00 this
Tue May 21, 2024, 07:32 PM
May 2024

morning. I have alot going on.And this is just the beginning. Husband"s PET was this morning and he is not feeling well emotionally and physically. Please forgive me for posting such an irresponsible thing.

Arne

(3,608 posts)
15. I can be thoughtless with my remarks
Tue May 21, 2024, 07:41 PM
May 2024

so I am asking your forgiveness and hoping your situation gets better.

marble falls

(62,534 posts)
2. One foot in front of another. Shake the dust from your sandels, take the stone out of your shoe.
Mon May 20, 2024, 10:19 PM
May 2024

marble falls

(62,534 posts)
8. Keep going, no matter what. Put the past behind you, remove that which causes you a pain that otherwise will ...
Tue May 21, 2024, 08:40 AM
May 2024

... never go away.

It's a fusion recipe for getting past that which freezes one's life and keeps happiness just out of one's reach:

One bit new age
One bit old testament
One bit old Sicilian folk saying.

debm55

(38,589 posts)
9. Thank you, marble falls. I knew it was Biblical but didn't know about the others. again TY
Tue May 21, 2024, 09:07 AM
May 2024

OAITW r.2.0

(28,711 posts)
3. You seem to be in a really tough situation.
Mon May 20, 2024, 10:35 PM
May 2024

I'd focus on you and hub for the immediate future. Best of everything.

Permanut

(6,714 posts)
5. I think you've earned your PHD, debm55..
Mon May 20, 2024, 10:46 PM
May 2024

Always glad to have you share your journey with us here. Even when there are some rocks in your road.

I've always had the idea that a family is something that you make, not something that just happens. Blood is just NOT thicker than water.

Just a bonus, you have one here.

arkielib

(375 posts)
10. Try to forget about these toxic people
Tue May 21, 2024, 09:08 AM
May 2024

and focus on yourself and Rich. You have friends and family here on DU.

beaglelover

(4,115 posts)
11. If I were in your shoes, I'd just focus on assisting my spouse get through this ordeal and tell the family to fuck off
Tue May 21, 2024, 04:54 PM
May 2024

unless they want to support you at this time. You have too much to deal with at the moment without putting up with their bullshit.

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