I guess sometimes mandatory reporting is a good thing

[FirstLight]

https://www.democraticunderground.com/115120215

I kind of freaked out reading about the damage that can be caused by being strangled by someone and the fact that it increases the likelihood that they'll kill you by like 750% which is freaking crazy.

So I called the ER locally and asked him if I came in with a DV injury would that mean they had to call the police or what.
Didn't give him a name but they traced me next thing I know within 15-20 minutes I got a knock on the door.

Anyway, I told them what happened downstairs in the driveway. She took pictures got everything on her body cam. So it was a male and a female officer, and I guess the sergeant came along for fun. (Probably because my house has been in their records because of my teenage son's angst and his proclivity to calling them when we get into arguments and telling them that I was being a horrible mother blah blah blah.😒🙄

They put me in the back of their car while they went upstairs to talk to her. Now what's funny is that we've got cameras in the house, for when we go out of town to watch the cats and make sure the house is okay. So basically I had my phone on me and I watched the entire thing in the living room.
She didn't argue or anything like that. She knew better cuz she's had a record. However, she basically said that I came at her and that she didn't remember any of the threats or any of it blamed it on the medication and yeah...
I know that there must have been defensive wounds on her arm because the second time tonight I was holding my hand on her arm and digging my nails in trying to get her off me.

Anyway they took her in cuffs and said that they had medical accommodations in prison for her so now I'm alone in my house with the doors locked and I'm not quite sure what tomorrow will bring I'm in a lot of pain and I am a little swollen. I plan to go to the hospital and make sure that I get some x-rays and get checked out cuz it is scary. But it's 2:00 in the morning and I've got to try to get at least a few hours of sleep maybe I'll go in at like 6:00 I don't know...

Again sorry for the run-ons talk to text is stupid LOL

I haven't told anyone about any of this none of my actual IRL friends. I sent one message to one person who I consider a daughter. Earlier today I emailed my kid and told them I was sorry and that I expected that River and I were going to break up and that I was sorry for the wedge that she had put between us. But as far as my best friends that I have known since elementary school that have been with me through everything in this world I haven't said a word
So thank you all for being here. You truly are a family away from family home away from home etc I'll keep you posted as soon as I get back from the hospital I'll just reply to this thread so I don't start another one and clog up the internets 😆

[elleng]

1. THANK GOODNESS!!!

[TommyT139]

2. Good to hear

Good to hear you are ok.

[BittyJenkins]

3. Glad you got help. Get your teenage son some counseling too.

[FirstLight]

6. He is long since moved out he's 22 now

My wife made me cut off all relationships with my children because apparently they were pos's

Devin may not be the best and he may have had his issues as a child but I know he'll grow through it and we're all going to get some family counseling

[Croney]

4. I'm glad you're ok. I know what you mean about DU.

I've shared things here that I can't tell anyone else.

[2naSalit]

5. I'm glad you...

Called someone and they responded appropriately. Now you are safe and at home and the problem is removed, for now.

Hopefully you won't have too many problems with what comes next. Maybe this was the blockage for your other pursuits..?

Maybe listen to that recording from Jo for a while. At least the violence should be over and things will get better going forward.

[FirstLight]

7. Update... I'm at the hospital now

And they started an IV they going to take some blood they gave me anxiety meds. Did a CAT scan of my everything I don't know and I guess they're going to do x-rays too maybe

I called the cops back this morning when I woke up and got the restraining order in place until November 1st and an immediate move out order so at least I don't have to worry about divorce eviction and all that bullshit

They slapped her with two felonies and she's already got a record ...
The judge won't see her until Monday. So I'm going to try and relax for my weekend I guess whatever that is

[XanaDUer2]

8. Did she say you punched her? Nt

[FirstLight]

9. Nope

She admitted to that cuz I had told the sheriff, so they asked her directly. And she didn't deny it.

[FirstLight]

10. All clear thank God

I looked up the felony counts and their each 3 to 6 years in state. Bail set it's 75k her car is in her name so she could possibly use that to bail out even though the car is only worth about $16,000? But even if she does bail out she got in a place to go so she'll probably just stay in there cuz at least she's got three hots and a cot right?

It's really really tragic for her and her life and I have a bad feeling that she's going to try to commit suicide

[WDLAL]

11. It's so good to hear that she is out of your house.

It's sad that she has the issues that she does and it would be awful if she committed suicide. Don't allow yourself to feel any responsibility for her issues and her choices. It's not your fault that she attacked you and made the living conditions impossible. You are taking care of yourself, after having gone above and beyond for her. You deserve to be safe.

[Dear_Prudence]

12. So relieved for you.

You have been thru so much.