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Siwsan

(27,354 posts)
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 02:51 PM Nov 26

I made my decision. I'm skipping Thanksgiving

It seems that the littlest things are overwhelming me, lately, so all of the activity could likely be a triggering mechanism. I'll probably spend part of the day cleaning the garage and the rest binge watching something. Not sure what.

Thanks to everyone for their input. I appreciate all of you more than I can ever say.

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I made my decision. I'm skipping Thanksgiving (Original Post) Siwsan Nov 26 OP
That's good, do whatever you feel comfortable with. We don't need any more stress. Walleye Nov 26 #1
Understandable. Tough times for all. SupportSanity Nov 26 #2
You do YOU, sweetie! FirstLight Nov 26 #3
Glad to hear it KT2000 Nov 26 #4
Happy Kidcat Cuddle Pile Day, or whatever else you do to celebrate in your own way ! nt eppur_se_muova Nov 26 #5
I bet TommyT139 Nov 26 #6
I'm skipping it, too. It's just another day for me..no stress with driving 2 hours back n forth Deuxcents Nov 26 #7
I don't even know what day it IS. usonian Nov 26 #8
For me Thanksgiving will be a welcome relief Redleg Nov 26 #9
Holidays are supposed to be about the joy of being with family. Keepthesoulalive Nov 26 #10
I get it. ... littlemissmartypants Nov 26 #11
Good for you wendyb-NC Nov 26 #12
What type of TV shows do you like? I got some SciFi suggestions irisblue Nov 26 #13
I spent a great many moniss Nov 26 #14
You do have the best family of all to spend the day with DeeDeeNY Nov 26 #15
I hope you have a wonderful day mgardener Nov 26 #16
Have a wonderful day. LoisB Nov 26 #17
Thanksgiving and Christmas? What are those? Aussie105 Nov 26 #18
'Soap'... watch as much as you can... OldBaldy1701E Nov 26 #19
Try "Columbo". mwb970 Nov 26 #20
I've throughly enjoyed the Thanksgiving's I've spent Phoenix61 Nov 26 #21
That's what I... 2naSalit Nov 26 #22
Totally understand mokeyz Nov 26 #23
Good XanaDUer2 Nov 27 #24

Walleye

(36,439 posts)
1. That's good, do whatever you feel comfortable with. We don't need any more stress.
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 02:54 PM
Nov 26

I go to my brother’s about a 20 minute drive away and his wife and her brother are there. It’s just the four of us. And he has the dinner early so I don’t have to drive home in the dark. our family used to always have a big to do on Thanksgiving. That ended like everything else with the pandemic.

FirstLight

(14,312 posts)
3. You do YOU, sweetie!
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 02:55 PM
Nov 26

I was gonna try and make a little somethng , but I can't get to the store in the weather and I'm overwhelmed by cleaning up and clearing out my ex's CRAP and processing the emotions of that debaucle.

We can meet up here and binge watch together!

KT2000

(20,954 posts)
4. Glad to hear it
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 02:55 PM
Nov 26

most of us really need to recharge and coping with more negative is not the way to do it. Pick out a good binge watch with the kitties!

TommyT139

(752 posts)
6. I bet
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 03:00 PM
Nov 26

I bet your feline family is depending on you, and very thankful for however you celebrate (or don't!).

Deuxcents

(20,161 posts)
7. I'm skipping it, too. It's just another day for me..no stress with driving 2 hours back n forth
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 03:03 PM
Nov 26

And my niece n nephew n their kids are grown so they don’t stick around, anyway. I can watch football at my house! 🦃

Redleg

(6,250 posts)
9. For me Thanksgiving will be a welcome relief
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 04:22 PM
Nov 26

I get to spend time with my almost-ex wife and my kids and some close friends. Of course I will wash the dishes after a brief nap, but that's the least I can do. Maybe I will get the kids to help.

Keepthesoulalive

(813 posts)
10. Holidays are supposed to be about the joy of being with family.
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 04:26 PM
Nov 26

But in reality it is a stressful time even if you like your family. Shopping, cooking, washing dishes, cleaning up when the guests are gone. But if we step back and ask why are we doing these things it’s because of tradition thanks Hallmark .Sometimes we have to make new ones that work for us.
Please hug Merlin for me he is adorable.

littlemissmartypants

(25,910 posts)
11. I get it. ...
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 04:29 PM
Nov 26

PBS has been advertising an All Creatures Great and Small Thanksgiving marathon which starts at 0600 until 2359.

The 2024 National Dog Show is Thanksgiving Day, 1200 to 1400, too. Yay!

❤️

irisblue

(34,417 posts)
13. What type of TV shows do you like? I got some SciFi suggestions
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 04:49 PM
Nov 26

I understand the feeling of being overwhelmed

moniss

(6,155 posts)
14. I spent a great many
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 04:49 PM
Nov 26

Thanksgivings and Christmases organizing my record collection etc. I got fed up with the battling and belittling. I knew that they were going to talk crap about me whether I was there or not. Didn't need to hear it. Many years ago I knew a guy who was treated so badly by his parents that when he finally hit 18 and was making enough money to leave that's exactly what he did. I knew the parents too. I could see his point. He never spoke to them again or saw them and when they died he was sent notifications of the funerals and there was no response. The parent's had no will and so the estate was to be split between him and sisters. He never responded to accept that either. Think of how bad you have to be to your kid to instill that feeling that deeply.

My deal was bad but not that bad.

DeeDeeNY

(3,588 posts)
15. You do have the best family of all to spend the day with
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 04:49 PM
Nov 26

Your fur family makes every day enjoyable!

Aussie105

(6,484 posts)
18. Thanksgiving and Christmas? What are those?
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 05:31 PM
Nov 26

Only kidding.

But we don't do Thanksgiving in Australia, and we gave up the Christmas family gatherings with hot stodgy food a few years back.

Too many fragmented families to make a big gathering enjoyable, and Christmas time is the hottest part of the year usually, so hot heavy food is out.
We are now vegetarians, so the dead turkey/pig leg went out too.
Could go some devilled eggs though. Just for us two. And the dog,and the cat. No curry for them though.

Sending meaningless Chritmas cards went out quite a few years ago as well. Sorry Hallmark!

But our Christmas tree will go up. It's a metal wire design, about 3 inches high. No decorations, no gifts under it.

In short, do your own thing and don't feel guilty about it. You do you. Enjoy!

OldBaldy1701E

(6,630 posts)
19. 'Soap'... watch as much as you can...
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 05:34 PM
Nov 26

There is little else that will cheer me up to the point that this amazing show does.

"Mickey Mouse's dog is GAY??" - one of the greatest lines in television!

Phoenix61

(17,725 posts)
21. I've throughly enjoyed the Thanksgiving's I've spent
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 05:38 PM
Nov 26

by myself. I watched every Christmas movie I love because I have them all on DVD. I collect animated Christmas toys so spent time playing every one of them. The teddy bear who reads ‘Twas the Night before Christmas is one of my favorites. And of course there were cuddles with the fur babies. Enjoy!

2naSalit

(93,529 posts)
22. That's what I...
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 05:44 PM
Nov 26

Normally do. No family nearby and not interested in all the rubbish involved in trying to make them allow me some space outside their fantasies about me. It's just so exhausting, I'm happier by myself. I am going to make a dinner with one other person this year because we probably won't ever do it again... one of us is moving away next year.

I'll probably spend the rest of the weekend at home putzing around and be just fine with the lack of stressful people around me.

mokeyz

(54 posts)
23. Totally understand
Tue Nov 26, 2024, 05:53 PM
Nov 26

as I have considered doing the same. the only thing worse will be the fourth of July😢

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