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[groundloop]

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[MarianJack]

1. My son is only 13, but...

...my wife and I practically need dynamite to blast his round little rump away from that fergin' X-Box. I suspect that your post is a preview of comming attractions.

That being said, I agree that he should get a job or have a bed & wake up time. Please accept my best wishes for your son, yourself and your family. Keep us posted!

PEACE!

[groundloop]

2. When my kids were that age they had a set amount of time for tv/video games...

One hour per day and that was it.

When we first implemented that rule there was the expected amount of fussing, but after a couple of weeks of us not giving in they got the idea that we were serious about it and adapted.

[mzteris]

3. Get rid of the damn Xbox.

Make a list of rules , worked out together, a contract if you will, of expectations on both sides. Like getting job, helping around the house, saving x amount of dollars to help with college.

Failure to do so? Well, you can be as lenient (which I don't recommend) or as strict as you want. Up to and including, having him rent his own place. include things like: we will supply x amt of dollars towards school, you have to come with the rest or do without. Or maybe a matching arrangement, for every dollar - or 10 or 100, whatever - then you'll contribute $xx... If he doesn't cooperate, well, pull the plug. And I'm not just talking Xbox.

Sometimes you have to push them out of the nest. Harsh? Yeah, but so is life. Better to be prepared than not, ya know? Mom/dad will not always be there to bail him out. The sooner he learns that, the better.

Edit to add: your house. Your rules.

[alan_phillips]

4. Yeah

it sounds like it is time for some tough love. He may not like it now, but down the road when life actually starts to kick in and be tough for him, he will appreciate the experience.