I really suck at being a disciplinarian beware a ramble

[TEB]

I always have even with our daughters. And now with our two thirteen year old sons. As I sit here drinking coffee with my wife , her words to me your just a softy. Yesterday we received a letter from the school. Asking why we never signed and returned the two write ups over our sons and horseplaying on the bus. As my horseplay syndicate walked through the door yesterday I presented the letter from the school. Immediately their response was dad we forgot, I replied you forgot twice. Dad it was just a mistake a big misunderstanding. I replied really a misunderstanding twice. That’s it no computer or x box or guitar.

Their great kids on honor roll never really written up before. And I understand that their boys. Now did they actually forget I doubt it and I cannot handle deception or deceit. Well I can handle deception in infantry operations smoke and mirrors that was a joke or attempted humor. So I relaxed the punishment this morning and let the boys out on parole.

I’ll say this our daughters their grown now never got a write up in school. The only problem I personally ever had was once going to university to bring our youngest home for break And in her trash can I noticed a aftershave bottle. Now I knew that a guy she brought home for Christmas break used that aftershave. So in the car I causally interrogated her young lady your father is very observant.

[Docreed2003]

1. TEB...I don't envy that position my man

My son is our youngest and I already know that same shit is going to happen in our house when he gets older..."you're to hard on the girls" "you always go so easy on him".....

It is what it is man. I don't know if I suck at parenting or not, but I do know I would be much worse at it if not for my wife!

[TEB]

3. I agree

I tell you doc your wright especially with having a great wife. I will say this the day in the car interrogating our daughter years ago. Over the aftershave bottle in her trash can. She informed me of my hypocrisy as she shot back in reminding me that her oldest sister. Was conceived when mom was in college and I was home on leave. Doc I busted up laughing but I had to get in the last word you are constant on your birth control. As for the boys my brothers and I pulled a lot more stupid at that age.

[Docreed2003]

4. Lmao...great stories

And yep, I'm pretty sure that's why I'm not so hard on my son...at least yet, because I was bad as hell when I was a kid/teenager!

[OnDoutside]

7. Actually the one big thing we do is to be united in decisions...kids

sense weakness !!!! You can argue about it when they're in bed !

[beachbum bob]

2. get used to it as kids (boys and girls) turn into teenagers and the hormones start raging

It will get better by the time they are in their mid-20s

[samnsara]

5. kids and dogs.....they all turn us grey...gray...?

[BlueTexasMan]

13. both in use

They're the same word, but gray is used in American English.

[OnDoutside]

6. Being a softie is fine ! I think you did the right thing as regards

no Xbox etc. But make sure they know that the write up is one thing, but the deception is worse. We always say to our 11 year old that it will always better to tell the truth, rather than being found out later.

[TEB]

8. Very true

I think at thirteen they may suffer from amnesia at times.

[OnDoutside]

9. And selective hearing too !!!

[MontanaMama]

16. My 13 year old son

has lost his marbles these days. I hear from other parents, teachers and a school principal I know that it’s normal at this age for them to be brain dead for a couple of years.

[3Hotdogs]

10. Several friends are dealing with alcohol, drugs and on and on.

My biggest problem was neglect of their school work.

[TEB]

11. I hear you

Our sons they stay on top of school and thankfully their anti drug and alcohol.

[JDC]

12. Sounds like me tbh. I fizzle pretty quickly and as years pass

Harder on the 3 boys, progressivly easier on them by age and as time passes/passed. My daughter, who is the youngest, requires, and gets, very little to no disipline. Truth be told, she is by far the smartest of the bunch. I think there is correlation in there somewhere.....

[masmdu]

14. My son asked me to reply and let you all know that, "I have perfect children"

Of course this is just what he asked me to post....

[TEB]

15. I understand

Give him a hug 🤗