Ladies, I need your input. What's appropriate for a 70-ish,

[raccoon]

Average American woman to wear to a funeral of her friends/peers/relatives? And is it better to wear something dark colored?

[Phoenix61]

1. I'd go with something dark. Maybe simple dress, or

top/slacks//skirt. Or if you’d pick it to wear out partying, pick something else.

[Srkdqltr]

2. I am no fashion person but something quiet is always appropriate.

In my community subdued works. Not neccesarily black unless you want.

[Tetrachloride]

3. Earth colors? (channeling my mother the artist )

[Sanity Claws]

4. Black and/or navy blue.

Clothes could be considered business casual but not play casual.

[chia]

5. First: has the family made a request? I've been to funerals which have requested "no black, please"

and to funerals where the deceased's favorite color is listed, if the guests would like to wear that color. Otherwise, dress to the time, location and weather. Beach celebration of life? Formal church funeral? From personal experience, I've seen less dark colors over the years among the younger, while older still seem to prefer black or dark tones.

[CrispyQ]

8. I've never heard of wearing the deceased's favorite color. I like that idea. -nt

[ggma]

20. My family wore red

at my mother's going home. I never knew that red was her favorite color until she was gone.

gg

[Ocelot II]

6. Dark, understated.

It wouldn't have to be black, though that's always appropriate; my go-to funeral outfit is navy blue with a white top, simple jewelry. I am also of an age where I attend funerals more often than weddings so it's good to have something on hand.

[CrispyQ]

7. Is there a dress code for anything anymore?

In the summer, my friend goes on a 100-mile bike ride & then goes to church in her biker clothes, not even showered & says she's welcomed. Okaaaayyyy.....

Every event I've gone to in the past 25 years, there's always a few people who show up dressed like they've been lounging around watching TV.

Personally, I would keep the look dark & classic.

[irisblue]

9. I have a black skirt & sweater, white shell, black shoes & hose on standby

In the closet

[livetohike]

10. Black or navy is what I wear. I have slacks, dresses

and blouses and blazers to go with the slacks. I’m in PA so I have funeral clothes depending on the season. Sadly, there have been more funerals than weddings in recent years.

[WhiteTara]

11. I'm not a lady, but I suggest black.

This is very somber, a friend died.

[Alliepoo]

12. I usually wear my

Black skinny slacks, a sleeveless or short sleeved top and depending on the weather, a black cardigan if needed. Black flats coz I don’t do heel very well. I like black on me but I think anything kind of subdued would work- navy, rust, browns, greens.

[Backseat Driver]

13. I've worn a dark green business-casual pantsuit (side-zippered pants w/waistband

and blazer-styled jacket with a dark green sleeveless smooth sweater-shell beneath, gold pendant or black-gold twisted chain, and earrings to several funerals in winter. (Black winter boots if attending graveside in the snow/mud conditions); or a lighter-weight medium green ribbed shell/cardigan set in spring and summer with low heels and hose or black socks and black leather mules having a small elevated heel. This saves dignity in case of fall or temperature variations in-house requires removing jacket outdoors or appropriate for more intimate food venues afterwards.

[ratchiweenie]

14. As long as it's tasteful it really doesn't matter any more. Totally up to you.

[CTyankee]

15. Most of these nowadays tend to be "celebration of life" events. If so, go with the flow...it might

be festive, not gloomy.

[Higherarky]

21. In my community, this! Celebration! Graduation from this life's lessons!

Tie-dye is welcome, even preferred.

[Lulu KC]

16. I lean toward navy or black at funerals

but the dress code seems to be gone, and I realized a while ago that no one is looking at me anyway so I just look as clean and presentable as I can.

[LakeArenal]

17. Wear what you want. Dead person doesn't care.

Living people, many you’ll never see again, should concentrate on the dead not fashion.

[yellowdogintexas]

18. when I visit my home town, I always pack a pair of black

slacks, black flats, a suitable for the weather top (any color except bright red ) and a jacket if it might be cool.

There is at least a 30% possibility a funeral will happen. Also it's an outfit I can wear anywhere.
Lots of old folks back there and we knew everybody so trips to the funeral home are always possible.

Alternatively I usually have a simple suitable for church dress which will do nicely. Slacks have the advantage of not needing panty hose

[elleng]

19. Dark blue would be my option, but it happens to be my favorite color.

DO have (now hanging in daughter's closet nearby,) beautiful multi-colored blue with some red, and would wear it if I needed such. Might even wear it as SUBJECT of a funeral. (Have long, medium dark blue cotton dress/gown I'll likely ask daughters to have me 'wear.')

[Faux pas]

22. ...

IMHO you should wear whatever you want.