One year.

[murielm99]

It has been one year since my son-in-law died. I don't think things have gotten easier.

My daughter has taken a new job, in the upper Midwest. She is closer to home, and, I think, happier there. It is better, not perfect.

She had him in her life for such a short time. I am glad they had each other at all. She hurts more than the rest of us, but we all hurt over his loss.

I don't know what she will be doing today. I will call her. It could be that she does not want to talk. That would be all right.

I don't have much that is hopeful or cheerful to say today. I do hope some of you are feeling better. I mean that. I don't want to drag anyone down.

[DeadLetterOffice]

1. Anniversary dates are just awful.

Mostly, it's all about hunkering down and surviving the day.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and your continuing grief. Be gentle with yourself today.

Hugs,
DLO

[No Vested Interest]

2. The first anniversary is the hardest.

Beyond the first anniversary, one can say to oneself -"Well, I got through (that day- birthday, holiday, anniversary-) once and will do so again on subsequent reminder days."

There is no right or wrong way for each person mark these days. The heart knows best.

[auntAgonist]

3. Dear Muriel, I don't think it EVER gets easier. Ever. It does get different though.

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I'm sorry I missed you post by a few day. Having a few hard days (months) here and admittedly I've fallen in my committment to this wonderful group of friends.

I hope you were able to speak to your daughter and I hope the day was more good than bad for her. Anniversaries are tough, no matter how many years it's been.

Please know Muriel that ANYTHING you post here is important and I'm sure won't bring any of us down. We are a support group after all.

IF you ever feel like sending a private message I'm always, always open to that too.

I'm hoping you have a good day today and much better days ahead.

kesha.

[orleans]

4. kesha--you have been absolutely *wonderful* for this group & to this group

please don't ever think otherwise

we are all so lucky to have you here, your tender/kind/thoughtful words, your insight, and your love.

i am hoping you (and all of us) have much better days ahead.

we love you. always know that.