Not yet bereavement. But what I say to my cousin who was just diagnosed with

[3Hotdogs]

stage 4 cancer?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. Well, I think *I* would say how sorry I am to hear this.

And I would also tell my cousin that I love him/her. And if they're open to it, give a hug.

Emotional support and caring are probably the best things you can do.

Such a big loss for your cousin might center mostly on feeling alone or abandoned.

It's an awful place to be, as you know.

I'm so sorry.

[SheltieLover]

2. Yikes!

So sorry to hear this.

What's the prognosis & is s/he willing to undergo treatments?

I would encourage them to reduce stress, eat organic & listen to docs.

Healing vibes on the way! 💓💓💓

[NNadir]

3. "I love you." It's what I said to my beloved cousin under the same...

...circumstances.

She was one of the finest people I have ever known, and I'm glad to remember saying as much.

I'm sorry.

[Casady1]

4. It is much more complicated than that

and things can be done. My wife has stage 4 and she just had 6 treatments of Doxrubicon and another which is a cocktail. It appears that everything is stabilized. What kind of cancer does this person have?
Stabilization is what the Oncologist works to get.

[LoisB]

5. I am sorry to hear about your cousin. I would let her(?) know that you support her 100% in

whatever decisions she makes about treatment, etc.

[Ferrets are Cool]

6. Wifey was diagnosed with Stage 4 Lymphomia AND kidney cancer within three days .

She beat them both. That is what I would tell them.

[sinkingfeeling]

7. Ask what you can do to help.... from a 14 year Stage IV survivor.

[murielm99]

10. Wow!

She should hear about you. You are amazing.

[3Hotdogs]

8. Stage 4 lung cancer. I don't know if she is getting treatment or hospice.

She is in Texas and I am in N.J. so there is little hep I can offer.

[slightlv]

9. I would just make sure to tell him I Love you and

I support you. If there's anything I can do to help, I'm here to help any way I can. Most of all, know how much you mean to me.

At this time, knowing that they're loved and supported is the most important thing, IMO. I don't have the cancer issue, I have the senile dementia and going downhill issue to deal with. And it's with my Mom, which makes it really hard. How do you condense a lifetime in a few words. Those are what I came up with that seemed to mean the most... to the both of us.