Husband's anniversary of his repose.

[sprinkleeninow]

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This is a really cruddy life experience for me. It's been 5 years. Gotten worse, more difficult. Physically something's off which exacerbates my psyche and spirit. I can't continue in this status quo. I'm not going to 'do anything'. I just expected some sort of minimal relief.
It's said losing a spouse is one of the most difficult losses one can experience and manage to endure.
Thanks for listening and being gracious.🕯

[MLAA]

1. Sending you hugs and warm thoughts.

[2naSalit]

2. ...

[KarenS]

3. ohhh

[OAITW r.2.0]

4. That is tough. It was 5 years, last month that my ex passed.

Can't believe how fast time seems to move as we get older.

[elleng]

5. Thank you for the music.

Felix Mendelssohn
Sextet in D Major for Violin, 2 Violas, Cello, Bass and Piano, Op. 110

https://weta.org/player

[badhair77]

6. My heart goes out to you. It's been almost 4 for me and I have no answers.

But I can give hugs and prayers for comfort and peace.

[sprinkleeninow]

8. First, my heart's love to all who have replied.

Someone on DU lost a child or spouse, I can't recall. They expressed it as having 'imagined' them. That's a perfect descriptive of how I feel. Especially when the one's passing is sudden and unexpected.

[3catwoman3]

12. Maybe it was me. In 1978, my younger brother and only sibling...

...died when he was 23 and I was 26. Scuba diving adventure that ended badly.

I know I have have said, here and elsewhere, that he has been gone so long that I often feel as if I imagined him because the memories get more and more remote, and there is no one left with whom to verify what you think you remember.

Wishing you strength and serenity.

[sprinkleeninow]

21. Yes, I believe so, it was you. .

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Traumatic if it's sudden and unexpected.
Someone did say that year: what if he survived but in a vegetative state? I shuddered.
We are all here for an appointed number of days. Why those who selfishly consider their own lives over regard of others is profoundly heart-wrenching. They haven't a clue.

"May the Memory of Your Beloved Brother Be Eternal." 🕯

[blm]

7. Sending a hug your way.

(( ))

[Diamond_Dog]

9. All I can offer is

hugs

[we can do it]

10. 💕

[niyad]

11. Holding you in love and light. Your DU family is here for you. Lean

as hard as you need.

[TygrBright]

13. Holding you in my heart. n/t

[LoisB]

14. Hugs to you.

[NBachers]

15. From my heart to yours

[leftieNanner]

16. Oh my dear.

I am sorry.

Would you be able to tell us a story about him?

[sprinkleeninow]

20. When someone in your life is taken unexpectedly....

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What happened to me personally was shattering, but this current state, mostly political, that the US is in and also the destruction in people's lives around the globe doesn't help healing. The soul is affected. Sickened.
I appreciate you asking to share some about him. This and all lovingkindness shown me on DU is balm for my soul.🫶

[Bayard]

17. He didn't leave your love behind,

He took it with him.

I hope you can find some peace, and smiles at good memories.

[soldierant]

18. I gsther from those who have been there that anniversaries

are particularly hard, and that doesn't ease up very fast.My heart is with you.

"I promise you, the time will come that what's going to happen is six months will go by and everybody is going to think, well, it's passed. But you are going to ride by that field or smell that fragrance or see that flashing image. You are going to feel like you did the day you got the news. But you know you are going to make it. The image of your dad, your husband, your friend. It crosses your mind and a smile comes to your lips before a tear to your eye. That's hwo you know. I promise you, I give you my word, I promise you, this I know. The day will come. That day will come." - Joe Biden

[question everything]

19. No words can ease your pain so just know how many here love you and appreciate your music

selections. Hope the music can offer some measure of comfort

[XanaDUer2]

22. Hugs

[Marthe48]

23. My dear husband died 7 years ago

Last year was easier than the first 5. I don't stop missing him. I have pictures in view all around the house. I will mention him if I'm talking to someone who knew him. I try to remember that other people loved him too. It helps me to boost them, especially our kids.

Sending you energy to ease your pain and lift your heart