It's been a year today since my sweet Patti passed.

[maveric]

Is it supposed to get any better? I still feel sadness. We spent 18 years together and I still miss her so much. Our house is full of her. I haven’t given her clothes away yet. I miss sleeping and waking up with her… I miss seeing her and talking to her. I miss her comforting touch…

Fuck cancer!

[LetMyPeopleVote]

1. I am sorry for your loss

[biophile]

2. Yes, it is supposed to get better.

But the time that grieving process takes will vary from person to person. Good luck - may your patience be rewarded with peace of mind.

[maveric]

3. Thank you so much.

I know she wouldn’t want me to let this linger.

[LoisB]

4. There is no timeline for grief. Be good to yourself.

[maveric]

5. I should. Thank you all.

[Demdummy]

6. I'm sorry for your loss

It’s been 15 months for me! She battled back from cancer twice but the 3rd time took her fast. I cried every day for the first year. 3 months short of 50 years for us so I know I’m a lucky man, just wanted it to go on forever!

[maveric]

7. I'm sorry for yours as well.

I have some work to do.

[NNadir]

8. It takes quite some time from what I saw with my father.

He joined widow/widowers club, where he met his wonderful second wife. What I liked about then is the deep respect paid to each other's first spouses.

This may or may not be for you. I feel as if I had to give my father a push in that direction, telling him, unsolicited, that I thought it would be a measure of what love meant to him to seek to love again.

Everyone has to find their own way in grief. I'm just saying it because I worried I'd lose my father to his grief.

I have told my wife that when I die, I hope some other man will share in the depth of her love.

May you find peace.

[maveric]

9. I may look into a support group.

Thank you.

[Clouds Passing]

11. Grieving groups are a saving grace.

[Clouds Passing]

10. Hugs and comfort maveric

[kozar]

12. Grief is a process,

Its an abstract process, with no hard rules or time lines.
Was talking to my Mom, yesterday, and she enlightened me a bit, Dad died in Nov. MrsK 3.5 years ago,Lil, coming up on a year.
She asked me why i sleep in a recliner, I told her, " it doesn't matter, how many new sheet sets, or comforters, I buy, when I lay down in that bed, I smell Lil and MrsK."
Mom said " that's because, you loved them, and they loved you, I just talk to Dad, when I get those feelings."
Im gonna try that, after all, it's Mom, and as she still tells me often,
Moms are always right.

Koz