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blondeatlast

(58,615 posts)
Thu May 19, 2011, 11:10 PM May 2011

I don't think this group will last, but it was a blessing to me when I needed it most.

Here's hoping it will remain so that it can help someone else deal with grief.

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I don't think this group will last, but it was a blessing to me when I needed it most. (Original Post) blondeatlast May 2011 OP
I hope it lasts also laundry_queen May 2011 #1
Been hanging here about a year Sedona May 2011 #2
This is my first visit....I am not handling what is comming. Tippy Dec 2011 #3
This is my first visit also. racaulk Dec 2011 #6
I kept my chin up... Tippy Dec 2011 #10
I hope it survives av8rdave Dec 2011 #4
agree and in memory of blondatlast I think we should try to make it last maddezmom Dec 2011 #5
agreed. geardaddy Dec 2011 #7
agree, not that folks are going to post in it all the time but just knowing it's here maddezmom Dec 2011 #8
This message was self-deleted by its author Major Hogwash Dec 2011 #9
I didn't know she'd made it to DU3 either. Morning Dew Jan 2012 #11
This message was self-deleted by its author scatalogical Jan 2012 #12
I wish I knew about this group over the summer... jillan Feb 2012 #13
hugs back to you maddezmom Feb 2012 #14
It sounds like he hit midlife crisis. Blue_Roses Mar 2014 #17
Oh, hope it stays.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jul 2012 #15
This message was self-deleted by its author JonLP24 Jul 2012 #16
Lost and alone sweet-salty Oct 2016 #18
That's terrible Blue_Warrior Jan 2017 #19
I think it's a great group onethatcares Mar 2018 #20

laundry_queen

(8,646 posts)
1. I hope it lasts also
Fri May 20, 2011, 02:25 AM
May 2011

I never shared anything crazy b/c ex knows about DU and reads occasionally, but I did PM with some wonderful people here and I would hope I could help others deal with going through this awful experience. When you are going through it you honestly think you are the only one and when it first happened, even just reading through the posts helped. I hope it stays!!

Tippy

(4,610 posts)
3. This is my first visit....I am not handling what is comming.
Wed Dec 7, 2011, 11:59 AM
Dec 2011

One would have thought after 31 years we would be passed this. It is really hard to write this right now...To dam many tears..Will be back.

racaulk

(11,550 posts)
6. This is my first visit also.
Mon Dec 12, 2011, 09:38 PM
Dec 2011

It made me sad to see your post. Keep your chin up, and write more when you are able.

Tippy

(4,610 posts)
10. I kept my chin up...
Tue Dec 20, 2011, 03:00 PM
Dec 2011

today things do not seem as bad as when I first posted...So much has been happening to me and my family, but we will make it. But this place is needed, without a doubt...just a few words of encouragement is somtimes all that is needed. Sorry I didn't get back sooner but will check in more often...

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
5. agree and in memory of blondatlast I think we should try to make it last
Sun Dec 11, 2011, 10:05 PM
Dec 2011

I know for me, I really don't want to talk about all the details but would be a nice place to be able to vent, hash stuff out, etc.

maddezmom

(135,060 posts)
8. agree, not that folks are going to post in it all the time but just knowing it's here
Tue Dec 13, 2011, 05:59 PM
Dec 2011

if they need it will be a comfort to DU'ers...like the Cancer Support forum and others.

Response to maddezmom (Reply #8)

Morning Dew

(6,539 posts)
11. I didn't know she'd made it to DU3 either.
Mon Jan 9, 2012, 01:14 AM
Jan 2012

I teared up a little.

We didn't know one another but I was often brightened when I saw her posts. I'm glad she made it here, makes it feel even more like "home".

Response to blondeatlast (Original post)

jillan

(39,451 posts)
13. I wish I knew about this group over the summer...
Wed Feb 1, 2012, 08:59 PM
Feb 2012

separated now. Putting the house up for sale, and then filing.

30 years of marriage and he throws it all away for a 45 year old skank (17 yrs younger than him) who has two grown kids and never been married.

I had a rough summer. But am much much better now.

Hugs to everyone who is going thru this crap.

Blue_Roses

(13,456 posts)
17. It sounds like he hit midlife crisis.
Mon Mar 17, 2014, 06:59 PM
Mar 2014

My spouse and I just seperated a week ago for that reason. I have been reading a lot about that and it has been helpful. Let me know if yoy would like some resources.

Response to blondeatlast (Original post)

sweet-salty

(4 posts)
18. Lost and alone
Sun Oct 2, 2016, 02:32 PM
Oct 2016

My husband swear's he loves me. Won't have sex with me, but he can there is no dysfunction we went to a doctor. About 3 years ago a girl stated calling and leaving messages in a British accent. "Do you want to quarrel! " and so and it was summer. I was trying to wean our 4 year old son out of our bed. When I got the phone bill for the past few months, from 1am to 4am he was on the phone. The whole thing causedone me to have a nervous breakdown, and one week after a week in the mental health unit I had a scheduled hip replacement. It failed 3 times and I was in bed for a year and a half. That was 3 years ago, I can walk again but her phone number is still on my bill. Her charges on credit card and I'very shone him on Microsoft the location where my accounts are being traced from. He says I'm crazy. Jealous. It's in my head. I can't take it anymore.

onethatcares

(16,598 posts)
20. I think it's a great group
Mon Mar 5, 2018, 07:35 AM
Mar 2018

jeez, you need sounding boards and advice and this group, although not totally anonymous, at least allows one to think without judgemental replies or the cost of a therapist.

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