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BainsBane

(54,936 posts)
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 12:45 AM Dec 2013

Ladies, listen up

Last edited Sat Dec 21, 2013, 03:01 AM - Edit history (1)

No more posts from Jezebel making fun of MRA types. No more making fun of "misandry," the word that even spell check doesn't know. You "in your face feminists" are a royal pain because you make some men feel bad. The most important lesson for being a feminist is that you must never under any circumstances make a man feel bad. So if you post about far right-wing MRA ideas, and some random DUer can't be bothered to read the article or figure out the context and therefore takes it as a condemnation of all men, that's just your fault. Don't recommend threads because if they end up on the home page or greatest page and someone can't be bothered to read the OP or see which group its in, that's all your fault.

So here are the lessons for proper "feminist" etiquette:

Don't broad brush. Now one might think broad brushing means leaping to conclusions about all men are this or that. However, as has been pointed out to we slow learners of HOF, broad brushing also includes any discussion of sexism or patriarchy or any critique of MRA Groups. What is not broadbrushing, however, is when a man uses an example of his ex-girlfriend as evidence of what is wrong with all women. That's okay because he's a guy and you're just a woman.

Stick to the ERA.
Acceptable feminist "tactics" involve limiting your speech to what men find acceptable. So rather than talking about social norms, sexism, and misogyny, keep it simple, focus on the ERA. We were told that at least three times in a recent thread, so we must learn.

Don't talk about rape: Rape is a big bummer, unless of course it's the subject of porn, then it's totally cool. Discussion of real rape bums some guys out. Remember that rape really isn't that big of a deal because it's numbers are in decline. So no "haranging" men about how to prevent rape. The only acceptable rape prevention campaigns are those that lecture women on their behavior. Men have absolutely nothing to do with rape. Rapists have absolutely nothing to do with rape. Rape is entirely a function of how much a woman drinks, what she wears, and where she goes.

Don't talk about violence against women. If you aren't talking about violence against men, you have no right to mention violence period.

If a man claims to be a Democrat, he is your ally. What he says or does is inconsequential. That he claims to be a Democrat is enough. You have no right under any circumstances to suggest anything about him is anything other than perfect.

So final lesson: Focus on the ERA. Be nice. Smile. Don't be overly forceful in stating your opinions. Don't talk about stuff that bums guys out. Work only for those rights men agree are necessary or acceptable. Remember ladies. This isn't the Congo or Saudi Arabia. They let us drive and wear clothing that shows our legs. Remember how lucky you are. Above all, stay in your place.

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Ladies, listen up (Original Post) BainsBane Dec 2013 OP
oh, dear. . .I never have been able to do what I am told. niyad Dec 2013 #1
That's because BainsBane Dec 2013 #3
and we do not... seabeyond Dec 2013 #16
very good. i read there is no need for feminism. we are beating a dead horse. aspirin between the seabeyond Dec 2013 #2
you forgot flirting. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #4
Not too much BainsBane Dec 2013 #5
boobage is a sure sign of forthcoming fuckage. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #7
--Shakespeare NuclearDem Dec 2013 #10
oh my --George Takei Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #11
Bwahahahahaha ( wipes tears of laughter) ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #6
IKR Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #9
Well I personally feel liberated and justified now. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #8
er, I assume DonCoquixote Dec 2013 #12
Wow. I didn't expect that comparison BainsBane Dec 2013 #13
it was meant as a compliment DonCoquixote Dec 2013 #14
Okay, then I shall take it that way BainsBane Dec 2013 #15
that is to two too cute. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #17
Has a yuiyoshida Dec 2013 #18
Yes, but what if they have an interest in psychology? Do we just sit at their feet, or should Squinch Dec 2013 #19
and an ex girlfriend BainsBane Dec 2013 #21
Bravo!! Sheldon Cooper Dec 2013 #20
LOL! redqueen Dec 2013 #22
A+ :) xulamaude Dec 2013 #23
Oh, and don't forget... smirkymonkey Dec 2013 #24
yes. women that flash the boobs are the true feminists... lol. that is right. we forgot. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #25
That's only acceptable if they are A cup BainsBane Dec 2013 #26
and btw baines. i am no lady. i am all woman. seabeyond Dec 2013 #27
Oh, I know. The word choice was deliberate. BainsBane Dec 2013 #28
thank you. after posting.... and i truly LOVE what i posted and that woman, i thought seabeyond Dec 2013 #29
Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #30
You have to have some kind of bargain or reward just to act respectful to people..? arcane1 Dec 2013 #31
LOL! *snort* xulamaude Dec 2013 #32
. redqueen Dec 2013 #33
i wanna know.... nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #34
here is what was posted by name removed... boston bean Dec 2013 #35
which duer was this, i wonder, having to create a fake name to face the feminists on du. coward. seabeyond Dec 2013 #36
Who was that masked sock man? BainsBane Dec 2013 #39
Who is this "us" of whom he speaks? ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #37
Actually no, I don't need him BainsBane Dec 2013 #38
he chose the wrong forum to post in geek tragedy Dec 2013 #40
He knew BainsBane Dec 2013 #41
Yeah, Mr. First Post. xulamaude Dec 2013 #42
Not their first post, just the only one using that sock. redqueen Dec 2013 #43
Perhaps I should have said xulamaude Dec 2013 #44
I'm sorry MuseRider Dec 2013 #45
my opinion, if the sock was banned for that one post then the DUer that created that sock Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2013 #46
I agree. n/t MuseRider Dec 2013 #47
That, right there, is one of those furious formerly-privileged guys who is fully aware of his own Squinch Dec 2013 #48
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
2. very good. i read there is no need for feminism. we are beating a dead horse. aspirin between the
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 12:52 AM
Dec 2013

knees now.

it is always nice when the men lecture the women that we only do this cause we need something to mouth off about.

thucythucy pretty damn smart

BainsBane

(54,936 posts)
5. Not too much
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:12 AM
Dec 2013

and don't show your cleavage unless you're prepared to put out.

Edited to add in case anyone's irony meter is on the fritz.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
9. IKR
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:21 AM
Dec 2013

really excellent. Bains and MrScorpio have been knocking it out of the park last two nights.

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
8. Well I personally feel liberated and justified now.
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:21 AM
Dec 2013

I had a bad experience with a now-ex girlfriend a few years back. Now I know it's not only logical but acceptable to broad brush all women based on that, and what's better, NEENER NEENER NEENER, you FEMINISTS can't call me on it lest you become the dreaded INYOURFACE feminists.

DonCoquixote

(13,730 posts)
12. er, I assume
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:29 AM
Dec 2013

this is sarcasm ala Third Way Manny?

Now that can be a title, instead of third way manny, be non feminist feminist

Squinch

(53,238 posts)
19. Yes, but what if they have an interest in psychology? Do we just sit at their feet, or should
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 08:11 AM
Dec 2013

we actually kiss their feet then?

I have so much to learn!

BainsBane

(54,936 posts)
21. and an ex girlfriend
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 09:04 AM
Dec 2013

which means he knows everything about all women and exactly what we need to do. Not that he would broad brush.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
25. yes. women that flash the boobs are the true feminists... lol. that is right. we forgot. nt
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 11:23 AM
Dec 2013

BainsBane

(54,936 posts)
26. That's only acceptable if they are A cup
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 11:24 AM
Dec 2013

and attached to 115 lb bodies. You know, Femen style. No chubby chicks allowed, and large breasts make you look stupid. I learned that last one on DU.

BainsBane

(54,936 posts)
28. Oh, I know. The word choice was deliberate.
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 11:46 AM
Dec 2013

Meant to invoke the dainty tea drinker they think we should all be.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
29. thank you. after posting.... and i truly LOVE what i posted and that woman, i thought
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 11:50 AM
Dec 2013

that might have been deliberate.

thank you

Response to BainsBane (Original post)

boston bean

(36,530 posts)
35. here is what was posted by name removed...
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:04 PM
Dec 2013
Look...here's the thing...

You need us, we don't you. I could quite happily live my life without feminism. I don't need feminists, and I'm not asking anything from them. You, on the other hand, have a big list of demands, and things men should or shouldn't do or say, but you're offering me nothing in return. You have nothing to negotiate with, so you rely purely on my goodwill. YOU need to convince ME, and you're not going to do it by being rude, aggressive, sarcastic or dismissive. It's as simple as that. You don't care about men's feelings or problems? Fine...makes no difference to me....but in that case, why would I care about yours?

Therefore, if you want me to listen to anything you have to say, you *WILL* conduct yourself appropriately and kiss my ass. If you don't, I'll simply ignore you.

Now, I'm sure your finger is already reflexively reaching for the alert button...but be aware that all you're doing is proving the stereotypes about feminists to be true and further eroding your credibility. If you can't defend your claims and views when questioned, or you think anyone who disagrees with you is a "misoygnist" or an "MRA", you probably shouldn't be posting messages on a public forum.

DU isn't your personal bully pulpit.
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
36. which duer was this, i wonder, having to create a fake name to face the feminists on du. coward.
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 01:16 PM
Dec 2013

second... fuck human decency, got it.

third, how is the "not needing us" working for you, grasseaters and angry men cause you do not get any

third.... i will OBEY you? fuck that shit too. coward.

BainsBane

(54,936 posts)
39. Who was that masked sock man?
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 05:17 PM
Dec 2013

Evidently he thinks DU is his personal bully pulpit, yet he lacks the courage of his convictions to make his claims under his regular name.

ismnotwasm

(42,478 posts)
37. Who is this "us" of whom he speaks?
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 03:15 PM
Dec 2013

We'll never know.

A few psychological problems there.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
40. he chose the wrong forum to post in
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 05:58 PM
Dec 2013

must not know about safe havens for that kind of attitude here

redqueen

(115,172 posts)
43. Not their first post, just the only one using that sock.
Sat Dec 21, 2013, 08:54 PM
Dec 2013

Like others said, it's either someone too cowardly to use their usual du account, or a zombie with a fixation on this group.

MuseRider

(34,410 posts)
45. I'm sorry
Sun Dec 22, 2013, 12:17 AM
Dec 2013

but that has to be the funniest thing I have read in a long time.

What was it I heard a couple of days ago? Talking to this one would be like trying to discuss physics with a grapefruit. I can't remember if it was one of you or somewhere else but it was something like that.

That was pure, unadulterated trolling from someone with the emotional state of a 2 year old. I am guessing this person does not even merit qualifications for an MRA, too stupid to be productive even there where actual thinking is not exactly treasured.

Ahhh well, an amusement on a snowy night.

I was actually looking for something to stir me up, make me warm a bit. I know there are other threads I just happened on this one.

*clap clap* LADIES, Oh LADIES ankles crossed, knees together, skirt down over your knees. Chest out, neatly bound by a wired contraption that hurts but provides the appropriate lifting for visual pleasantness and support. Hair nicely styled in a fashion most pleasurable to the opposite sex, makeup carefully applied. Now, on with the show. Who wants to talk about the best way to prepare lamb?

Anyone who remembers those days will fight against them as if their very lives depend on it, and they do. If that is not serious enough for some men to understand then we leave them behind and stop listening to it.

Love you all. You make life a learning experience, an experience of love and caring, fun and silliness all bound up with the strength and intelligence needed to keep our heads above water. When I am down I come here to read your responses. They always help. Thanks.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
46. my opinion, if the sock was banned for that one post then the DUer that created that sock
Sun Dec 22, 2013, 12:48 AM
Dec 2013

should also be banned.

Squinch

(53,238 posts)
48. That, right there, is one of those furious formerly-privileged guys who is fully aware of his own
Sun Dec 22, 2013, 04:14 PM
Dec 2013

obsolescence.

One could almost feel sorry for him.

Almost.

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