Some US government statistics about sexual violence (trigger warning)

[YoungDemCA]

Nearly 1 in 5 women (18.3%) and
1 in 71 men (1.4%) in the United
States have been raped at some
time in their lives, including
completed forced penetration,
attempted forced penetration,
or alcohol/drug facilitated
completed penetration.

snip:

One in 6 women (16.2%) and 1
in 19 men (5.2%) in the United
States have experienced stalking
victimization at some point
during their lifetime in which
they felt very fearful or believed
that they or someone close to
them would be harmed or killed.

http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_report2010-a.pdf

Notice anything about the numbers re: men and women?

Who needs feminism, right? There's no rape culture...Nope.

[Flatulo]

1. The OP says 'sexual' violence. What about non-sexual violence?

I've been beaten nearly to death a few times, and that's no fun either. I had my jaw broken and was wired up for six weeks.

Yeah, it was in no way sex-related, but still... violence sucks.

I understand that being raped during or after being beaten is worse that simple assault, but I'm left wondering why Americans are so violent in general. Why is it that so many of us think it's OK to have our way with someone who may be weaker?

[ismnotwasm]

2. Yeah I've had my ass kicked a few times too. I've kicked a few asses.

Lets break it down by gender-- was it a woman or a man who kicked your ass?

[Flatulo]

3. It was a gang of boys. I was always a little runt and

I was born with a deformity that left me hunched over for life.

Another time it was my dad, while he was drunk. He didn't like that I was weak and odd.

Although I was certainly teased a lot by mean girls. Right into adulthood. That hurts too.

[ismnotwasm]

4. So you want to talk about generalized violence?

On a thread that specifies sexual violence?

My question had a purpose; most of the violence directed to you was by males correct? You see a problem there?

Edit to say "teasing" and harmful words are a form of violence

[Flatulo]

5. Sorry, I shouldn't have posted my first reply.

Of course men are much more violent than women. Is that even a debatable topic ?

[ismnotwasm]

6. No, that was just a way to get to my point

I'm horrified by the experiences you went through, and I acknowledge that violence against males is a unaddressed topic. My point is you seemed to want to equate sexual violence against all violence.

It usually derails the conversation about sexual violence. I suspect your experiences have harmed you in a similar way as rape will, often ending up in PTSD, and/or a general distrust of people.

If you need to express yourself, feel free, and I apologize for any hurt I caused you.

This is how we too often end up talking past each other.

[Flatulo]

7. You're spot-on about the PTSD. 50 years later and

I still have nightmares almost every night. It steals away part of your humanity and replaces it with fear and mistrust.

At a time when a child's life should be filled with joy and wonder at all the beauty in the world, I (and my siblings) were learning that monsters walked the earth in human form, doing whatever they liked without consequence. And there was no one to stop them.

My mom tried to leave a few times, but dad threatened to kill her right after killing her children, in front of her, and he absolutely meant it.

We kids woke up with the house in flames on three different occasions. We all learned how to climb out the window at the first wisp of smoke.

Anyway, thanks for your kind words, but I really didn't mean to make this about me. Perhaps we'll speak again.

[ismnotwasm]

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