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irisblue

(34,417 posts)
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 09:34 AM Oct 2022

Another Twitter based discussion about women, dating and being safe

every damn time there are men surprised that this is a truth for women


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Men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them

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irisblue

(34,417 posts)
1. From Buzzfeed.com, an example
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 09:37 AM
Oct 2022

Title-
A Man Felt So Humiliated That A 21-Year-Old Woman Beat Him At Pickup Basketball That He Shot And Killed Her, According To Her Family

source-https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annabetts/woman-shot-texas-basketball-game

snip-"The family said Womack won the game. Then the shooter, who they say knew her, took his children and brother home before coming back to the park and shooting Womack five times as she was walking home.

"This was supposed to be a friend of Asia’s. She's eaten with the man," Andrea Womack, Womack’s mother, told the outlet. "She’s fed him, and he turned on her and killed her in a vicious way."


more there

Scrivener7

(53,216 posts)
2. Back during the DU gender wars, there was a very heated discussion about women
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 09:43 AM
Oct 2022

saying that at night on a deserted street every man you encounter is a potential rapist and needs to be treated that way. And men should be aware of that fact and, unless they are a rapist, sensitive to it.

Men here were outraged. They were insulted. They were enraged. They told us we were paranoid, called us names for suggesting such a thing.

A couple of years later, along comes Covid. Some of those SAME men (the ones who haven't been PPR'd, as most of the men's rights ones have) were the loudest ones complaining, "Everyone I meet could give me Covid. I have no way of knowing who will and who won't! The ones who don't mask and don't distance are putting me in DANGER!!1!

They got the concept. They just didn't care enough to apply it when it didn't concern themselves.

CrispyQ

(38,598 posts)
6. I remember that time.
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 10:07 AM
Oct 2022

Deliberate obtuseness. It was good to see who were the jerks, though.

niyad

(120,693 posts)
3. When I could not talk a friend out of meeting some guy like that, our
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 09:44 AM
Oct 2022

standing rule was that she had to text me his pic, the number he gave her, and where they were meeting. And she had to text me once an hour. I am thankul that she hs since stopped this insanity.

irisblue

(34,417 posts)
4. Pre cellphone days, I carried a work pager
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 09:56 AM
Oct 2022

I had an agreement w/girl friends that they would page me 30 minutes into the date. "Oh! Work looking for me, I'll be back in a minute", I'd go find the pay phone in the bar/restaurant lobby & check in. I also called when I got home.

CrispyQ

(38,598 posts)
5. My single days were long before cell phones, but we still had a buddy system.
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 09:59 AM
Oct 2022

1, Make sure your best friend knows the name of who you're going out with, where he works, & where you plan to go.

2. Carry enough cash to get yourself home. Don't forget change for a pay phone.

3. Once home, call your friend.


I had some other rules, too. First dates never got to pick me up at home.

Arkansas Granny

(31,869 posts)
7. We had this one: If you're out with a friend and she picks up her purse to go to the restroom,
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 11:05 AM
Oct 2022

you do the same. Chances are, you're leaving, for whatever reason.

Diamond_Dog

(35,188 posts)
8. Yep. This is reality for women who date and has been for a long time.
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 11:48 AM
Oct 2022

I think most men have absolutely no idea.

irisblue

(34,417 posts)
9. I know there are some gay men who do this (waves at Shaun), but straight men
Sun Oct 9, 2022, 11:53 AM
Oct 2022

do not know thism

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