I just read a quote on Reddit in a response by a random person that is hitting me like a ton of bricks.

[AZJonnie]

42. I had the luxury of 'non-awareness' in formulating my response

By that, I mean LC did not mention the details of what caused him pain, so I felt free to speak on the subject from a '30,000 Foot Level', as the saying goes. "Life" is full of a LOT of crap that we have no control over, so I'll oft try to claw back a semblance of control from our unpredictable universe. Toward that end, something I've discovered over my 60-ish years on earth is that I actually CAN control how I react to the bullshit going on around me. There's a saying I learned by hanging out in various rooms, listening to people wiser than me, that goes along these lines: "What other people think of me is none of my business". It's so often that the source our pain arises from disappointment over what we think other people (must) think of us, and we take it heart because it 'feels right' that we 'should care'. But you actually don't HAVE to, and the only time it's really useful to do so is for the purpose of self-improvement. Put another way, try not let anyone hurt you unless you legitimately see how your personal failing(s) caused it, and in that situation, feel the pain, then, as quickly as possible, try to put it to productive use.