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jfz9580m

(15,584 posts)
23. I am so glad you found a better fit
Fri Sep 27, 2024, 08:21 AM
Sep 2024

Your last job sounds like a nightmare. I have always felt for people whose job involves deescalating bs (even when it is my own
;-/ ).

My worst work experience was over a decade ago and I burnt out pretty badly. On the plus side, I am fine now.

There was a lot of fault on my side, but even so the institution was a bit hideous. I have grown up myself a bit now, but I still do roll my eyes about some of their bs when I recollect it.

Still in the balance I figure it is better to blame oneself for one’s own sake (as long as no one else knows ).

The institution I last worked at..they had an institutional personality that came across as pushy and somewhat obnoxious. The people there weren’t too bad often, but the collective personality of the institution was ..well I found it charming .

I don’t really have a problem acknowledging
my own errors and more importantly correcting them under at least semi-reasonable conditions ;-/.
However, it makes fair-minded processing of one’s own errors hard when you fear that a pushy employer is looking over your shoulder to collect a list of your faults to neutralise you.

Oh well…you learn from anything that doesn’t kill you. I am pretty robust psychologically so I guess it was a learning experience.

My boss was actually cool. It is why I have finally let it go. I suppose what I thought/think roughly translated/s to “This poor man is working and doing his best in this hideous place. He is decent enough so I should get out/move on”…

Anyway I am glad it worked out for you liberal n proud.

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Working in a toxic position [View all] liberal N proud Apr 2023 OP
Six years is a long time to be unhappy Sienna86 Apr 2023 #1
Yeah, SirusXM will be my friend liberal N proud Apr 2023 #12
Speaking of Sirius XM BWdem4life Apr 2023 #19
Sounds 'exciting.' elleng Apr 2023 #2
If you're so unhappy with your current job that you are actually considering this, I say go for it! patphil Apr 2023 #3
You answered your own question: "things have become toxic" Irish_Dem Apr 2023 #4
+1 2naSalit Apr 2023 #15
+1. My last job became toxic but I could bail out...never looked back..nt mitch96 Apr 2023 #17
Right, staying too long in a bad situation can be very damaging. Irish_Dem Apr 2023 #18
Good luck. multigraincracker Apr 2023 #5
Take the offer. Six years is a long time to stay in a job where you are miserable. Ocelot II Apr 2023 #6
I would not send the scathing letter. Chances are a toxic company spooky3 Apr 2023 #7
Right elleng Apr 2023 #8
I would keep the letter CountAllVotes Apr 2023 #10
I had to write it liberal N proud Apr 2023 #13
Totally understood nt spooky3 Apr 2023 #14
Do it, and don't look back. Meadowoak Apr 2023 #9
I've retired 4 times and always wanted to keep working. Each time has been a new experience. erronis Apr 2023 #11
I stayed in a toxic position for a few years. Turbineguy Apr 2023 #16
Not nuts. Added benefit, keeps your brain young lostnfound Apr 2023 #20
That sounds really horrible jfz9580m Sep 2024 #21
I did, a very small company had been recruiting me for a while liberal N proud Sep 2024 #22
I am so glad you found a better fit jfz9580m Sep 2024 #23
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