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buzzycrumbhunger

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2. I don't see a real lesson taught...

Wed Mar 26, 2025, 06:40 PM

Mar 26

I don’t think “not smiling” or not reacting as if this was a compliment is enough. Girls need to learn how to call out a perv and shut him down.

Maybe it’s just my daughter (a tough little Aries…), but by the time she was 10 or 11, if a grown man said something like that to her, she would’ve replied with something like, “Ew. What are you, like 100?” I’ve always been proud of her self-confidence and refusal to play meek just because someone’s older and trying to invade her space like that.

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A moment that changed me: my 11-year-old daughter received an unwanted compliment - and I taught her how to respond [View all] demmiblue Mar 26 OP

My dad taught me that I owe men nothing. MontanaMama Mar 26 #1

I don't see a real lesson taught... buzzycrumbhunger Mar 26 #2

Great response. Zackzzzz Mar 26 #3

To be honest, I think it was mostly her... buzzycrumbhunger Mar 26 #5

I wish I had known what to say to creepy older men when I was that age. Diamond_Dog Mar 26 #4

Slap him across the face, and say "that was rather disrespectful of you to say that". Comrade Citizen Mar 26 #6

Weirdos are out there. Sometimes they are the nicest people. twodogsbarking Mar 27 #7

The way he required a response More_Cowbell Mar 27 #8