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15. i am now hearing the argument from people that do not participate on this forum

yet critique this forum, continually make jabs at this forum (i am NOT talking about you), that there is no difference from a member who participates, discusses feminist issues and has for years, and a person that has never posted in this forum, walk in and attack a member.

let me say this clearly, and it will be something we all can talk about when we have a thread hashing this out. if you dont think there is a difference between the two posters, you are so wrong. it really is that simple.

just like, a poster that comes in with one post, making a snotty comment anywhere on du is treated differently from the poster that has been here ten years and 70k posts. it is just a reality.

also, imo, and this is another thing i think we need to hash out in a thread. i dont tippy toe. i dont walk on egg shell. i dont go around the bush, under, over, in order to make a point. i go right thru the bush. i dont feel there is anything wrong with it. i appreciate it as a matter of fact. it doesnt leave me wondering, when someone talks to me like that. someone that tippy toes leaves me wondering what they are saying. i dont like THAT. lol. i think THAT is passive aggressive and annoying.

i saw a poster say see.... not nice. when really i saw blunt opinion, but not offensive.

we cannot have a forum (i would not think any of us would want it and many simply could not do it) where only one style of communication is allowed to ensure no hurt feelings. we can do our best, like i am trying to o now, but none of us can always be successful.

but yes, i do think that is another important point. i do think that is a good idea to pm when having that kind of issue. i think we will also need to discuss what and how we take care of that. we are not moderators. cannot lock or delete a single post.

thanks