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6. I'm Childfree, twice sterilized, and 47. I STILL hear that "you'll change your mind"

Tue Feb 21, 2012, 09:14 PM

Feb 2012

I realized - fully and truly - at age 9 that motherhood wasn't for me. I've never had doubts, not even for a moment. I have actually been harassed about it at one of my jobs (Do you have kids? No. When are you going to - your time is running out. Never; I don't want any. You don't want any because you can't love anyone besides yourself! You are an evil woman! etc). Strangers have felt compelled to question me on this, especially when I was younger.

When my mother married in 1963, her gyno tried to send her to a shrink because she wasn't pregnant within months of her marriage. (I showed up 14 months later.)

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Pregnancy in Entertainment [View all] Neoma Feb 2012 OP

I thought your thread said mzteris Feb 2012 #1

I had two daughters HockeyMom Feb 2012 #2

Same here kdmorris Feb 2012 #5

I have an aunt & uncle that "tried" for a boy tammywammy Feb 2012 #10

This seems to be something like the "all women are breeding machines" kdmorris Feb 2012 #3

I have a childless friend, divorced now, who was married for several years. gkhouston Feb 2012 #4

I'm Childfree, twice sterilized, and 47. I STILL hear that "you'll change your mind" REP Feb 2012 #6

The child-free woman I was talking about upthread? gkhouston Feb 2012 #7

I had a very hard time getting my tubal fulguration, too REP Feb 2012 #16

I'm glad you finally found the right doctors. gkhouston Feb 2012 #18

It took my mother 20 years to get a doctor to listen to her Rex Feb 2012 #24

Yikes. REP Feb 2012 #27

She fights it everyday and it broke my heart to watch Rex Feb 2012 #35

I know that feeling REP Feb 2012 #37

No...not yay. Rex Feb 2012 #41

Not that I'm a fan of surgery REP Feb 2012 #42

I've never seen you whine. Rex Feb 2012 #43

You must be new! :-) REP Feb 2012 #44

Awww garrrrrsh... Rex Feb 2012 #45

Ouch. I've heard that's horrible. gkhouston Feb 2012 #29

Thank you! Rex Feb 2012 #32

Oh, damn. As much as I hate having Hashi's, if you've gotta have an autoimmune gkhouston Feb 2012 #34

Ouch! Rex Feb 2012 #36

I'm 31 and not married and childless tammywammy Feb 2012 #11

I'm very lucky - my family is unconcerned with my lack of issue :-) REP Feb 2012 #17

Remember this - DURHAM D Feb 2012 #25

Yup! :-) REP Feb 2012 #26

That is .... a scream! MADem Feb 2012 #15

The obsession about body image seems to grow more strident with the MADem Feb 2012 #8

Men are also tanned, smooth and hairless now. Neoma Feb 2012 #9

What is this thing about the "no hair" nowadays? MADem Feb 2012 #12

If you show more skin, you're in! Neoma Feb 2012 #13

Pretty soon, everyone will run around with a couple of hankies and some dental floss, and be done MADem Feb 2012 #14

At least I could take my glasses off, and the sound of breaking glass gkhouston Feb 2012 #19

Heh heh--I'm with ya--I resemble those remarks! nt MADem Feb 2012 #20

LOL, this is one thread that would be better off *without* pictures. gkhouston Feb 2012 #21

... MADem Feb 2012 #22

At the risk of being serious, both of you cut that out :-) REP Feb 2012 #28

Eew. Now I know why you have such a stiff manner. gkhouston Feb 2012 #30

At least I didn't post photos. REP Feb 2012 #38

Damn you. Just when I'd run out of brain bleach. n/t gkhouston Feb 2012 #39

I brought enough for everyone REP Feb 2012 #40

Nah, people would get too cold to do that. Neoma Feb 2012 #23

Are the media scraping the bottom of the barrel for material, gkhouston Feb 2012 #31

I don't have any children, nor do I want any and ur bird can sing Feb 2012 #33

It's a roll your eyes moment, every time I see it. Neoma Feb 2012 #46