How do you know when it's time for your spouse who has dementia, to be

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7. I understand, to some degree, what you are going through.

My husband’s short term memory is shot. He is sometimes wobbly when he walks. I need to prepare and give him his meds and enablers, make sure he eats and remind him to shower. Yet, he continues to be cheerful and hasn’t lost a sense of humor, doesn’t have incontinence issues and he still knows me. While I sometimes get a little tired and sad , I’m not yet overwhelmed but I’m also 20+ years younger.

It’s so tough I imagine to know when it is time to seek help. It sounds like you have a trial period. I would see how he adjusts to the care center and how you feel living without him. I would think at some point it won’t be physically safe for him to be at home and at some point it will be overwhelming for you to care for him at home. I guess if it were me, if he settles in okay at the center it might be a sign it’s time. Sending you hugs this is so, so hard. I do sometimes miss having a partner to share decision making with.