when do you give up an walk away?

[hollysmom]

5. maybe I misstated my goal.

I really can't see him getting help, I just kind of want get him out and ensconced in a place where i don't have to worry about him, sell his house and get a fair price o the girls don't go bankrupt supporting the hous , and to save his girls. They enable him by protecting him, much like I think his wife (obviously we did not like each other) who I believe kept him drunk to control him. The girls grew up in this dysfunctional family, they are in denial, but are aware there are problems. They don't understand what is going on with their support. And yes, people think I am mean because I won't tolerate crap. hey think with dealing with him and their other relationships they don't have time for Al anon. This is reminiscent of my other thinking I was mean to my husband when I would not take crap from him when he was drinking.
About Al anon, I had to go to multiple places because some were too religious for me and were clique like filled with nonsensical ideas. Yes the guy who wanted to keep his wife pregnant so she would stop drinking, I kept thinking fetal alcohol syndrome.