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Newest Reality

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4. Awww.
Sat Apr 11, 2020, 04:03 PM
Apr 2020

I understand. This is a stressful time for so many.

You do need your focus to be useful and you want to use your energy wisely, right?

I am going to bet that you have been through times in the past that were very difficult and seemingly insurmountable, and, despite that, you made it through to, "whew!" If so, then remember that in order to resurrect that sense of managing and coping with what's at hand right now. You can make it now. This is different, but deep within, there is a strong instinct to get through it and it is always there for you to draw on.

Of course, you know that cooler heads prevail and that your pragmatism and spunk will help those around you, especially those who need you. We are not playing toxic positivity or false optimism here, that's no very useful really. No, its about the personal tenacity you have and how cooperating with that will calm you, reassure you and most of all, make your efforts count more because you are able to be responsive and precise, step-by-step.

What is happening is happening. This is how this is. Nothing, right now, changes the immediate moment, so acceptance in that sense gives you a better mooring and sense of balance and conviction. When you start to worry about the future of things, remember that your mind is just trying to control what's going on for survival and it plays various scenarios out as if that always works. Hey, it's about survival, right? Thing is, in our complex world where flight or fight or freeze are difficult to even apply to this, that old strategy can just bring more anxiety, fear and panic, none of which may be helpful if they dominate your mind and stress you out, right?

It's not a bad idea to go with, what has happened, has happened. What is happening now is what's happening. What will happen, will happen. Relax with that idea as a way to take a break and take a few, slow and deep breaths. Some call it Amor Fati, or love of one's fate, or simply being or even, resolution. Right here and right now. This. Notice.

Try to stay with what is going on now. Notice when you are going into worry/survival/scenario mode, (all the what ifs). Know that you can choose to indulge in them or maybe, interrupt by doing something else or attending to something more immediate and useful.

I don't know, maybe that will assist you there. I do think your ability to rely on your own inner resources will be a valuable resource for others if you can center on that, and that will uplift you, as well.

Be Well.

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