My son is driving me crazy. He's a tRumper.

[TigressDem]

26. Yeah, his kind of "support" of her sobriety wouldn't pass 12 Step smell test.

Ironically, the mother of said niece who is someone hard to trust and may have even threatened to have people kill his whole family during a heated argument..... again we support him keeping his kids away from her.... but she has a new boyfriend who seems to be a decent person. This guy was taking the niece on the water slide and it was giving her a great birthday experience. (Minus missing her cousins.)

The niece gets financial support from her biological father, but not much more. He's never mean, but he's not there.

This was one of those rare occasions where my great niece was having a positive "daddy figure" day and no one wanted to crash on that and ruin her day telling "S" that she had to go so the cousins could have some time, because it meant that she'd be taking that positive "daddy figure" away as well.

No one's life is perfect and we are all perfectly within our rights to set personal boundaries, but enforcing our boundaries on other people and acting like EVERY minor infraction is a life threatening scenario is a kind of crazy all of it's own. I worry about my son and his kids, but also think if I share this part of the story he might understand why the situation went on longer than it usually would.

"S" usually lasts about 10-30 minutes on one of these supervised visitations with her daughter. Maybe she really is trying to turn her life around and this guy is part of that. Hard to say. But it isn't our place to judge that one way or another either. It would be nice, though.