So it's Christmas again...

[canuckledragger]

6. Yes, and the hard part is finding friends that understand the damage done

By toxic families, and how it's a lifelong thing the victims go through.

They can't be relied on, trusted or talked to about anything personal, as it becomes just another weapon to be used against you.

Some of the only ones that truly understand what it's like are the ones that went through it too, and they aren't always the healthiest people to be around.

I have a one or two friends that came from that background, acted out on it and caused themselves quite a bit of trouble...but not around me, because of our similar experiences. One of them had a twin brother ( that I was close to as well) that had a few bad moments, went off his meds, acted out and committed suicide. This was just a few months after another close, mutual friend of ours comitted suicide when he let his financial problems get the best of him.

I've been running out of close friends to talk to.