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BlackSkimmer

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11. I couldn't eat for almost a month after my mother died. I lost a lot of weight.
Tue Jul 5, 2022, 08:24 PM
Jul 2022

My stomach would just clench up if I tried.

I also availed myself of the hospice grief counseling. They're very good. Grief does suck, but don't fight it. The worst will pass in time. But it's only time that works, just time.

One of my favorite quotes is from Queen Elizabeth, "Grief is the price we pay for love." Thinking of it that way somehow comforts me.

My saving grace is always exercise. I just upped my running and began rowing as well. Spent more time working out. It helped, but even now the pain is there.

She died in 2017 at 90. Still breaks my heart to remember her face the day after the election, and it bothers me to think that was the last big event before her death. She was so disappointed.

Hang in there.

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I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #1
Food has been 'off' for me for well over a year; elleng Jul 2022 #2
Try a restaurant with a buffet. take a little of each. Tetrachloride Jul 2022 #3
interesting idea, but expensive... FirstLight Jul 2022 #4
Is your sense of smell OK? Any chance you may... 3catwoman3 Jul 2022 #5
oh no...I can smell everything.... FirstLight Jul 2022 #6
Oh, dear... cilla4progress Jul 2022 #7
it's a process, for sure. FirstLight Jul 2022 #9
Sounds like you are heading in the right cilla4progress Jul 2022 #12
I am so sorry. The greater was the love the greater the grief, Murphyb849 Jul 2022 #8
definitely greater love... FirstLight Jul 2022 #10
I couldn't eat for almost a month after my mother died. I lost a lot of weight. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #11
I have a favorite pair of Middle Eastern cooks. Tetrachloride Jul 2022 #13
Is there anything you have a taste for? SheltieLover Jul 2022 #14
hey Skittles Jul 2022 #15
It happens. TigressDem Jul 2022 #16
I am so sorry about your parents. LoisB Jul 2022 #17
It is common to lose interest in food for far lesser reasons than what you are going through. Beastly Boy Jul 2022 #18
ya, and I'm recovering from shoulder surgery on top of it all , mom's stroke was 2 das after my surg FirstLight Jul 2022 #19
You need protein and fat, especially if you are recovering from surgery. Beastly Boy Jul 2022 #22
Side topic, if your dad was a veteran, see if he qualifies for a bed in a V.A. facility. 3Hotdogs Jul 2022 #20
Yes MFM008 Jul 2022 #21
Stress, anxiety and extreme sadness can definitely affect your taste. lark Jul 2022 #23
Got an appt with my reg dr Monday FirstLight Jul 2022 #24
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