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Jarqui

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41. Whether I performed in public or not didn't make much of a difference to me
Wed Jan 11, 2023, 12:25 PM
Jan 2023

I suspect what we experienced sometimes as musicians is roughly similar to what a group of actors or dancers might experience. There is something kinetic amongst the group of players. It is unspoken. You're just aligned such that you can feel where the others are going at any given moment in time.

In music, you might be jamming material you have never played or heard before but you can feel things coming that no one has played before and you all KNOW it is going to happen and it does. It is like you are reading each others minds without having discussed anything. A connection of the souls if you will.

Other times it manifests as what we called a "musical orgasm" where overall it is so together and magical, it is significantly greater than the sum of the parts.

Often dance partners we dance with - two left feet. But once in a while, you encounter a partner where it inexplicably all clicks and you are one. I believe dancers probably experience some flavor of what we experience as musicians - some strong connections get discovered.

Henry Winkler claimed a special acting connection with Ron Howard (but one example)



Interesting that you mention poetry. I became good friends with a keyboard player 50 years ago. We were very tight and did a number of projects for about 15 years. It was magic. We'd literally laugh at being able to tell where the other was going when we were jamming material we had never played before. It was crazy. He moved nearly continent away. I haven't seen him in 15 years or played music with him in 35 years. But we still are in steady communication. He'd been writing poetry all that time but never done anything with it. I encouraged him to do something and he came out with a book. It was a treasure - like I got some of my friend back. Then he came out with three more books. I can't bring myself to discuss them with him. They're so special, rich and such a connection, I do not want them tainted by discussion. I read them again and derive other thoughts and meanings.

There is so much more that is so much deeper and more rewarding than merely "drawing attention to yourself."

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yes, and there are all kinds of high-functioning NJCher Jan 2023 #38
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"I found out she was very embarrassed that I got so involved in stage work Jarqui Jan 2023 #32
I would add to that NJCher Jan 2023 #39
Whether I performed in public or not didn't make much of a difference to me Jarqui Jan 2023 #41
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Just because I'm good at masking and internalizing my problems doesn't make them any less painful Siwsan Jan 2023 #42
By no means did I mean to trivialize your problems. My apologies if you took it this way. Beastly Boy Jan 2023 #44
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I curled up for a nap and woke up with pairs of cats curled up on each side of me Siwsan Jan 2023 #43
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That's my favorite explanation, ever! Siwsan Jan 2023 #47
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