She moved to a small town, even though she's an Extrovert Extraordinaire. Now she's miserable, because she doesn't have people and amenities near that she needs around her like she needs air to breathe. Not saying that's your situation, but what you've described about the isolation sounds a lot like what she's said to me.
I know it's tough to need help and people not giving it. I've been there with the lack of support when I really needed it. As a complete introvert, I've never had much of a network to back me up. I've had to eke out solutions as best I could with the limited means I've had. And the means were never all that great. I was pure working class, all of my working life, and my husband is working class, too. Money has never been abundant for us. Our credit is no credit. It's been shot to hell after I had to quit working for health reasons. If a car breaks down, and we don't have the money to fix it, we have to scrape together the money over the months it takes to get the repair done. Fortunately, my husband's job and our necessities are walking distance from our home. We also have access to public transit. It's crappy public transit, but it can get us to those places we need to be sometimes, if necessary.
It doesn't sound like that's where you are right now, and it may be time to face a tough reality: The move isn't working out for you. Is it possible to sell and move to a place with more of what you need, without taking a brutal financial hit? You can have big city amenities without living in a big city, these days. A town of 30-100,000 can be both inexpensive and socially rewarding, depending on where you want to live.
If you can't move, then it sounds like you need some help with depression. What I've learned from my own long struggle with it:
1) Find an anti-depressant that works for you. I had to go through four of them before one not only worked, but also--and most amazingly--worked at fighting it off for good. Medication can help when dealing with some seriously overwhelming issues, like you seem to be.
2) Doing helps with fending off depression, and it doesn't matter much what the doing is, as long as it's socially, mentally or physically stimulating. Physical stimulation is not in your wheelhouse right now, but what about the other avenues?
Do you have a college nearby? Many offer free classes if you're 65 or over, and they may even waive certain fees. That can be a great way to get some social activity (you will *not* be the oldest person there), and plenty of intellectual stimulation, too. The books don't have to be expensive. DM me if you want to know more about going to college as an old. I was a late-life student recently, so I'm familiar with what the experience is like.
Is there anything social at all in the nearest community to you? A book club, or anything associated with hobbies you enjoy? A volunteer opportunity, for when you get better, physically? Or what about a new hobby that you've wanted to try but never got around to? Now is the time to start doing the prep work for it, until you're able to be more active with it.
Is your writing arm in a sling? You seem to be of a certain age. Maybe now is the time to gather up your life-story memorabilia, organize it, and start writing about your own history. It doesn't have to be published to be a worthwhile endeavor. Do it for you. Many people enjoy writing for the sheer joy of writing itself. It's also not an expensive hobby. Cheap spiral notebooks and drugstore pens will do the job. Of course, a computer works, too, but I don't know if that's how you access the internet.
Doing things like this has helped me overcome depression, and I'd had it since I was a young child. If I can overcome it, anyone can.
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