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vercetti2021

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Wed Jul 26, 2023, 06:12 PM Jul 2023

Facing a dilemma [View all]

Coworker shared with me that she broke up with an abusive ex not long ago and since then he's been creeping on her. Sitting outside her house, sending her texts from various numbers. Even knows where she works. She's terrified. I told her to let me see what he looked like so in case he came into the coffee shop, I would boot his ass out immediately. But part of me wants to issue a threat to him and tell him to leave her alone if he did indeed show up.

Since she told me I've been walking her to her car and following her home to make sure she is okay. I feel maybe if this asshole see's someone is protecting her, he'll back off. Part of me feels he'll target me also. But I actually carry a gun on me so I don't worry about myself.

This is a big issue and I feel I need to protect my employees and friends no matter what. But also I don't know how unhinged this guy can become. Mass shootings plaguing out country and anything can set this guy off to come and shoot up our coffee shop.

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Facing a dilemma [View all] vercetti2021 Jul 2023 OP
Picking on her, shows he is a bully. multigraincracker Jul 2023 #1
We do vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #2
+1 multigraincracker Jul 2023 #8
Is he her actual ex, as in divorced? bucolic_frolic Jul 2023 #3
Boyfriend vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #9
Good on you for helping. sheshe2 Jul 2023 #4
Told her to do that numerous times vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #10
She needs to do it now. sheshe2 Jul 2023 #13
Finally after sitting with her for 2 hours vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #19
Finally some good news. sheshe2 Jul 2023 #20
Yeah vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #21
One need not have suffered domestic abuse in most states to get a restraining order--just be fearful hlthe2b Jul 2023 #5
I'll check Texas vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #11
I wish I had some helpful advice to offer. You are protecting her as best you can. niyad Jul 2023 #6
Already done vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #7
She should never be alone. Ever. no_hypocrisy Jul 2023 #12
I'm watching her the best I can vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #18
Just read two articles today a women being stalked by ex boyfriends kimbutgar Jul 2023 #14
Jesus vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #15
You are doing a good thing looking out for her. My advice is that she should report it to the LoisB Jul 2023 #16
Well I got the weapon vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #17
IF SHE includes your shop in her restraining order... it is her place of work, right? TigressDem Jul 2023 #22
I'm so sorry vercetti2021 Jul 2023 #23
What doesn't kill you DOES make you stronger. TigressDem Jul 2023 #24
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