Need to vent.

[TigressDem]

6. What I "think MIGHT work" is to tell him the toll it is taking on me.

When I feel ALONE in this housework, I fight myself doing it. AND when it keeps going and going I don't let myself turn it on him, I turn it on me and get suicidal.

Then I remember I've told him that and he just acts like, "Yeah, it's all my fault."

I grew up getting angry and then cleaning and blaming everyone around me... we all did that. It was like musical chairs. Whoever was it played that game as "the only one whoever cleans around here" during their spin around the circle.

I went out and got paid to clean house to stop the cycle.

Hubby and I used to have a list and each of us put our initials on it and did our fair share.

At one point we hired a maid too and that was nice.

SO I just told him, WE NEED TO DO A LIST AGAIN.

He says he IS trying to balance work/self care and working on the list.... but realistically, that's bunk.

I will print out the list and if he wants credit for doing work, he needs to put his initials/date on it.

It works at Mc Donald's with first time working teens and we are at least that mature, I hope.