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Mental Health Support

MotownPgh

(441 posts)

5. The only way to have a friend is to be

Reply to FirstLight (Original post)

Tue Feb 25, 2025, 06:23 PM

Feb 25

one. Make an effort to check in call or text with some locals. It takes effort but maybe you can build local connections. Try not to trauma dump and be a good listener. This has helped me.

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How do I get friends to check in on me more? [View all] FirstLight Feb 25 OP

Where do you live in North Carolina? everyonematters Feb 25 #1

I'm in Tahoe...my kid is in NC FirstLight Feb 25 #3

I wouldn't be afraid to invite them over for a cup of coffee and a catch up chat. Then I'd give them an update on recen MLAA Feb 25 #2

yeah, that's the kicker... acquaintences aren't the same... FirstLight Feb 25 #4

I do miss going to drum circles. OldBaldy1701E Feb 25 #8

Wishing you all the best! I wouldn't have thought it would be easy to make new, good friends late in life (I'm 64) MLAA Feb 26 #11

The only way to have a friend is to be MotownPgh Feb 25 #5

I do as much non-trauma dumping as I can thanks FirstLight Feb 25 #6

I agree with you completely. OldBaldy1701E Mar 2 #13

Yes i learned this during covid MotownPgh Mar 2 #14

Call them and in the course of conversation, tell them you'd like to stay in closer touch SheltieLover Feb 25 #7

I did a lot of reaching out today, FirstLight Feb 25 #9

Great job! SheltieLover Feb 25 #10

I think loneliness is at all time highs and we are all afraid of one another. I don't LiberalLoner Feb 28 #12