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BlancheSplanchnik

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4. yeah...I have absolutely declared that I will be open to nice guys

Sat Jun 29, 2013, 08:24 AM

Jun 2013

And i will go slow, give myself time to see them more clearly.

Just having a hard time meeting *anyone*...no-one of any interest has shown up yet.

Perhaps that's cuz my heart is still tied up in the ex? I'm not putting out "I'm available" vibes to the Universe? Just can't get other things to replace the thoughts of him.

I should be grateful it's done, cuz he was an abusive alcoholic, after all the charm, but......groveling to cruel people just to try and get a crumb is so very deeply ingrained in me (i saw that very clearly in myself last night while journaling)

So, I'm trying a new "mantra" -- I am grateful to not be tiptoeing on eggshells and yelled at all the time...

The new therapist left for summer vacation so I am deciding now to do good work on myself till she's back.

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Anyone here ever NOT be able to get over a lost love? [View all] BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2013 OP

"Mama said there would be days like this..." kickysnana Jun 2013 #1

thank you kickysnana BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2013 #2

The solution to your problem may not be all that complicated Tobin S. Jun 2013 #3

yeah...I have absolutely declared that I will be open to nice guys BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2013 #4

I have tended to be obcessive libodem Jul 2013 #5

yeah..that's a good one. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #8

I did have one around here libodem Jul 2013 #9

'tis. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #10

If there were good 100 men in a room libodem Jul 2013 #11

I'm going to AlAnon to learn how to have r-hips with non-alkies. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #12

You're going to have to work through the five stages of grief Fumesucker Jul 2013 #6

yeah... BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2013 #7