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Last edited Sat Jul 20, 2013, 12:32 AM - Edit history (1)

just heard from 28 year old married daughter, who has for many years been 'mean' to her younger sister, controlling/manipulative, MEAN. Older has 'excluded' me from her life many times in past 'few' years, among other things 'un-friending' me, but other and worse examples abound.

Her father, my husband, passed on May 15, so just went through funeral tumult, w unnecessary but predictable disagreements. Both daughters devastated by unexpected loss of their father (he and I estranged, but got together recently to help younger daughter try to deal with misery her sister has caused her, and he wanted to speak with older about her behavior, but passed before he could do so.)

She's pregnant, 3+ months, called + asked if I'd received her messages, text I guess, recently. Told her I'd received 1 in particular, about having selected baby items from target+. Had told her that already. She asked whether her sister had received messages, I said don't know, haven't heard from sister for few days.

I ask how are they, she says, just learned 1 in 5 chance baby has Downs, I say OH SORRY, let me know please, she goes on with 'Don't tell sister,' I say, 'I object to that,' and hang up, as nasty attitude toward sister growing, and I have no tolerance for such so I avoid by hanging up (or leaving the room.) She goes on to tell me what a horrible mother I am.

I'm 'busy' dealing with estate issues, as well as looking forward to moving to this lovely place to be closer to younger (who lives abt 60 miles from me, in MD; older lives in NJ, near Philly.) http://smd.craigslist.org/apa/3907272842.html

Sad, again, about daughter's rudeness, and of course concerned about baby. Final results apparently available in about 1 week.

Anxiety returns.

Thanks for 'listening.'