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hunter

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21. Most of my life I've been a dysfuntional person in normal society.
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 08:04 PM
Oct 2013

Largely, I still am. Ask my wife and kids...

My grandparents were all "eccentric." Even my most normal grandmother suffered what would now be labeled as an "anxiety disorder." Her husband, my dad's dad, was a lunatic but he was also a wizard with metal, first deemed essential to the war effort as a World War II officer who kept a band of geniuses and misfits out of jail. Later he was an engineer for the Apollo moon project. He could make impossible things out of titanium. But during his down times he was just a depressed autistic spectrum freak. Odds are good, like Paul Erdős, he was addicted to amphetamines. Perversely, I think they helped him sleep and dream in numbers. My own reaction to drugs is the same. Mostly I sleep. Uppers, downers, it doesn't matter. My current prescriptions supposedly have a side effect of insomnia but I don't sleep without them.

My mom's parents were simply insane. As kids me and my siblings never could figure why adults were treating our grandparents like they were rational. My mom's parents were way out there but we never let it bother us much.

Give my mom a glass of champagne and she will tell you stories about her childhood... oh my! Her parents were welders. Both made lifetime careers of it. During the war they built ships. My mom's dad worked sixteen hour shifts. He came home and slept. Her mom worked eight hour shifts welding and eight hour shifts as a party girl entertaining sailors. Dance, sailor boy? (Some groping allowed.) My mom's daycare providers were hookers who were very protective of her, mama grizzly bear protective. My mom is a mama grizzly bear too, she'd kill to protect her kids or grandkids. Fortunately the whole lot of us are good at avoiding that kind of trouble. In middle school they'd send me to the library whenever I got in trouble because they were often afraid to call my mom. I like libraries. They are my refuge.

The first time I was asked to leave university it was for fighting with a teaching assistant. I never touched him but he was throwing things at me. Chalk, an eraser, then a book, and people fled the class and somebody called the campus police.

Yes, it was my fault. I was saying mean things. My first two words were "That's Bullshit!" and it escalated from there. I flunked that class, but when they allowed me to return to school I got an "A" in it, so I guess I learned something.


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Great question. I don't think many "normal" people understand just how hard this is. Denninmi Oct 2013 #1
Thank you for the amazing post, Denninmi. Tobin S. Oct 2013 #2
Ah, I just call 'em like I see 'em. Denninmi Oct 2013 #3
The best advice I ever got but only started taking recently Tobin S. Oct 2013 #4
Checked myself in. Bertha Venation Oct 2013 #5
This message was self-deleted by its author Tobin S. Oct 2013 #6
Can I ask you a couple of ?'s. Denninmi Oct 2013 #7
I believed it would help. Bertha Venation Oct 2013 #9
Yes, thank you. Denninmi Oct 2013 #10
re the iron fist Bertha Venation Oct 2013 #13
You are a "class act all around." hunter Oct 2013 #19
Bravery seems a fine quality, the expectation that the ill display it? Maybe not HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #8
This message was self-deleted by its author Tobin S. Oct 2013 #11
As I said I'm not against bravery, I'm not for cowardice. HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #12
This message was self-deleted by its author Tobin S. Oct 2013 #14
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Sort of, though I'm questioning uncritical acceptance of culturally defined 'good' things HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #20
Most of my life I've been a dysfuntional person in normal society. hunter Oct 2013 #21
Generally speaking, many of us would expect mentally ill to not conform to cultural expectations HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #22
There's clearly an autistic sort of *something* from one of my grandfathers... hunter Oct 2013 #23
Hunter, I think a lot of what you said is spot on. Denninmi Oct 2013 #24
I've never been brave. That's what it feels like to me. hunter Oct 2013 #15
This message was self-deleted by its author Tobin S. Oct 2013 #17
Thank you. hunter Oct 2013 #18
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