what would you say to someone who refuses meds?

[mopinko]

12. i think you have something important and rare- people you trust.

for all that people might love and care for someone off the rails, to have to stand by, w the answer literally in your hand, a simple pill, and to have that person not only reject your advice, but to say and do incredibly hurtful things is just a special hell.

you have people who love the you that you want to be, feel you are, and can be. that you are not always that person is something they understand.
maybe this is something that comes w practice of going through the cycles enough times that they can find a comfortable distance from the hurtful things, and you can hang on to that trust, by memory, even when it is hard to feel it.

i look forward to the day that a shrinks job is to separate people's real emotions from the lies their brains tell them. so often the person who could be that lifeline is demonized as the cause of the illness/turmoil. of course you obsess about the most important person in your life! and none of us are perfect, so it is always possible to pick someone apart, and lay their failings on the table.
but it is the lies that are the source of the hurt, and the focus of the hurt isnt necessarily the cause of the injury. they could be your best ally, but shrinks too often reinforce those fears and hurts, and cut so many lifelines.

sigh.
you are one of the lucky ones my friend. and i have zero doubt that you deserve it.