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Mental Health Support

gvstn

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12. It does take a long time when you really grieve someone.

Reply to CTyankee (Original post)

Fri Feb 9, 2018, 07:10 PM

Feb 2018

It is not always a "he/she is dead, get on with it". The suddenness is shocking no matter how much you "know" what is going to happen. I wasn't prepared for a few losses in my life even though I did my best to help out.

Please have a good year. And write what ever makes you sane. No harm in expressing your feelings. It is not wallowing! Your better than that and your SIL knows it too.

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Overcoming grief. My struggle to recover after mourning the loss of my dear sister in law. [View all] CTyankee Feb 2018 OP

Grief takes its own time. WhiteTara Feb 2018 #1

Thanks for the offer but I have to believe that she herself would not want me to wallow in grief. CTyankee Feb 2018 #3

Big hugs WhiteTara Feb 2018 #5

Grief is part of life. CTyankee Feb 2018 #6

Death never comes at a convenient time. WhiteTara Feb 2018 #11

Sorry for your loss and sadness PJMcK Feb 2018 #2

I've learned that you can't. CTyankee Feb 2018 #4

Missing someone you love... Louis1895 Feb 2018 #7

Her daughter was tragically confined to a wheelchair due to an accident when she was 22. CTyankee Feb 2018 #8

Incredible! Louis1895 Feb 2018 #9

Thank you, Louis... CTyankee Feb 2018 #10

It does take a long time when you really grieve someone. gvstn Feb 2018 #12

thank you. I have made my peace with this at long last. It is a blessing. CTyankee Feb 2018 #13