phew. update on my son.

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well, life i weird is all i can say.
and families can most certainly rock.

so, last news was that the boy moved to va w his girlfriend to work on a horse farm. they broke up, and she moved back to chicago.
some folks there put him up for a while, and he was reportedly helpful. but they let him know he had to get a job. in rural va. umm.
his biggest worry was that he thought (so did i) that there was a warrant out for him in illinois. ex's new wife, a chicago cop, looked it up, and he had gotten time served in the county jail.

he reached out to a cousin, who lives in falls church, to help him find a lawyer. now, this cousin is much older than he is, and they hadnt had that much contact. he was career army, and didnt make it home to very many get-togethers. some day i will find out how he even found him, since he is notoriously private, but yeah.
he reached out at a time that the family was all pretty close together after a couple family funerals. so, much warm fuzzy.

he asked if he could stay w him for a while.
now, like i said, career army, now at the pentagon. ramrod straight.
he wanted to help him, but the army has some pretty strong experience in straightening out kids like him. he laid down a lot of rules, including getting help, getting a job, and no drugs.
since my nephew works crazy hours, much will fall on his wife. respecting her was also a biggie.
i cant tell you how important that no drugs one is. the kid was so lost in a fog of weed.

they drove him around getting applications, gave him 24 hours to fill them out, then took him around to hand them in. they told him that on the next monday he was to find a therapist and make an appointment.

so, the latest update-
he had his first visit w a therapist, and cant wait for the next one. he hopes to go weekly.
he got a job, tho he hasnt started yet. making pizza, which is actually something he can do well.

if anyone can straighten him out, it is his cousin.
tho there was some family friction around my nephew and his service, i have the deepest respect for him. he rose to the highest ranks in the special forces. he was up for a general's star. when he didnt get it, he announced his retirement. to get him to stick around for 1 more year, he was offered a job in the obama white house. tho he is quite a rw-inger, he was honored to serve, and came to respect obama. he was the liaison to the special forces. he negotiated bowe bergdahl's release.
he is one of the hero horse soldiers of the afghanistan war, tho they wrote him out of the movie "12 strong", prolly because he really doesnt like the spotlight. there was a fatwa out on his for his actions there, so that was part of it, but that is also just who he is.

to say i am over the moon at the moment would understate this by light years.