It will help me to write this out and feedback is appreciated.

[empedocles]

2. Seems like you've done a good self-analysis so far.You've identified the tricky problem of denial.

Suggest you see a good therapist. Like any other field there are some exceptionally good ones - who can produce a better result.

A way to find the right therapist is to research therapist manuals for how they treat various anxiety types, as well as books on anxiety. Like almost anything else the more you know, the better your chances are.

My personal experience is that the experiential [body oriented] therapists get to the important sub issues more readily than traditional talk therapists. Your personal experience may confirm the body language concept. Given a person under stress; their body language may provide a more effective reading of their stress, than what they may say.

Hope this helps.