So don't think by letting your kids spend time with grandma will be a bad thing!

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5. This is so true! My FIL passed last week and we will be going to his memorial service.

Gmom is expecting everyone to take part - Everyone has been given a reading part, and everyone in the family has been asked to write a remembrance and read it during the Remembering Dad part of the service. When it comes to writing remembrances, my kids never really had the close connection with him that my SiLs 5 kids did. I know it's sometimes said that a daughter's family becomes closer to her parents than a son's family does. I'm sad for both my kids, as these are the only grandparents they have to remember since both of my parents passed before my youngest turned 1. It seems in the 26 yrs of huge family night dinners, they were good experiences, but the adults talked to the adults while the 7 kids played in a different room.

Shared experiences mean a lot, especially those shared with the elders in our families. So, grandparents, even if you're busy, try to make time for all your grandkids - especially one-on-one. Learn who they are and what's important to them, and they will learn the same about you.