My BFF from college is entering "assisted living" in a few weeks.

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4. It 100% depends on the place, but you will still need to be very involved.

I'm horrified to read your description of your aunt and uncle's lack of care. Mom lived in an Assisted Living facility for 3 years - it was a Brookwood place. They have lots of places here and they were better than most, but not at the top of the scale - she couldn't afford that. It wasn't perfect, I had to talk to the Nurse manager several times because mom was confused and would talk to the wrong people, and not mention her issues to the right ones, causing her to go downhill when she didn't receive timely treatment. So once we figured out what was happening, there were no more issues. Mom learned to talk to the nurse too and how to tell the CNAs apart from the nurses. We learned that we had to follow up and ensure the nurses got the message and see if an appt. is scheduled. I really liked that they had a dr. that would come to their rooms if they signed up for a visit. It was very helpful dealing with mom's severe breathing issues.

That was 13 years ago when she went in, not sure how they are now?