but saying you NEEDED it is where the problem begins. When we approach other people out of need, there is an agenda that must be fulfilled...OR ELSE, LOL! And oftentimes, no matter how much someone else tries to convey compassion, there is always something lacking. No one really knows how another person feels, even if they've gone thru the same situation.
The bigger question is whether there are really victims or not. I have spent my life with situations that have been very frustrating and hurtful. Believe me, it's easy to feel like a victim. But "victim" implies helpless; at the whim of others and life. I choose not to see myself in such a disempowering light. I notice that when I tell people (who are complaining about their health issues, mind you) about possible things they can do that don't involve surgeries and drugs, inevitably there is this anger that I am "blaming" them for their condition. The word BLAME seems to be foremost in people's minds and yet it has nothing to do with what I am trying to accomplish.
Cheers. 
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