Speaking of karma, soul contracts and life purpose...

[magical thyme]

28. first the problem was saying I "wanted"

and when that was a mistake, then the problem was saying I "needed."

People have needs. That is a fact. Blaming them for having needs is again blaming the victim.

I'm not talking about a helpless victim. I'm talking about somebody who is suffering, who actively seeks support and advice or whatever to fill their needs, and instead is told "thank you for taking this on" and how it feels to be at the receiving end of that response.

"The word BLAME seems to be foremost in people's minds and yet it has nothing to do with what I am trying to accomplish. "

Hmmmm...so BLAME is foremost in people's minds (iow, not just mine) but it has nothing to do with what *you* are trying to accomplish. Maybe whatever it is you are trying to accomplish, you are going about it in the wrong way or you are missing something.

Maybe one of the problems here is that you weren't there (at the old DU) so have no idea what I am talking about. There are others who *were* there, who have experienced what I have experienced, who have felt similar reactions. Maybe if you had experienced it you would understand what *we* are getting at and what *we* are trying to accomplish.