Speaking of karma, soul contracts and life purpose...

[magical thyme]

31. and this is where it again shows how unfamiliar you are with this group

or you would know that we as a whole are pretty well versed on the concept you describe above.

You would also know that we, as a group, are generally very supportive of each other. As I wrote in my original post, I have no doubt of the sincerity of intent of the person who had replied to me. We come here to share and discuss ideas and experiences, but we also come here to be supportive of each other.

And because we have a history here of being supportive of each other, we do have expectations not that other people will necessarily tell us what we "want to hear," but that they will be *supportive* and *sensitive* to our experiences, even and especially if they are telling us something that they believe we need to know.

Consider this scenario: A person is in a car accident and taken to the emergency room. Out of curiosity, the person asks the ER doctor how they know that a heavily bleeding, open wound on their hand does not have glass from the broken windshield in it. The doctor says, "Here's how" and, pressing a wad of gauze on the wound, unexpectedly scrubs the wound and flap of skin covering it back and forth, very hard. This may answer the person's question, but it also caused severe, unexpected and unnecessary pain. Believe me, it hurt like a sonofabich! And it certainly was NOT the response I needed to hear. Nor was the answer provided in a very sensitive or compassionate way.

Words may "just be semantics" to you, but in fact they have meaning. Furthermore, brain studies have shown that verbal abuse is perceived by the brain as physical pain. The same neurocenters are activated by verbal abuse as by physical pain.

What you are calling "feeling like a victim" I am saying feels like pain. I'm not saying you "didn't meet my expectations." I'm saying, what you said caused additional pain. Just like how the ER doctor answered my question. Yes, it provided what he thought was an appropriate answer. It still caused additional, unnecessary pain. This is particularly true when somebody has opened themselves to discuss deeply sensitive issues.